one achieves happiness and self esteem by :I feel I have never been completely happy in my life, not sure why, maybe I grew up not knowing how to be. I have a problem with relying on other people to make me happy because I can't seem to be happy with myself and I don't know why, I don't know what the underlying problem is - perhaps low self-esteem? or am I unhappy because I have no social life? But then part of me believes that if I did go out more I still wouldn't be happy. When I have been out in the past I haven't felt particularly happy. Maybe one has to be happy with themselves before they can be truly happy with other people? But in that case how can you make yourself happy especially when you're not satisfied with who you are. I just want to be grateful for life but I don't even know what makes me happy anymore, I feel completely lost.
Happiness is hard to find and everyone has to find it on their own, however, it does require the help of others, and asking other people about this idea is a great step to take. Other people can't make you happy; only you can, and you are right when you say you have to be happy with yourself first before you can be happy with others. If the Nine Inch Nails are a favorite band of yours, you are probably not a happy person (I can relate because I used to think they were a great band when I was not so happy in my life, but now that I am happy I don't care about them so much). If you are not satisfied with who you are, you have to figure out what makes you satisfied (talking to a counselor is a great option-it helped me a ton in my life). Going out, if you mean going out to bars, does not make people happy - this is only a false happiness.I feel I have never been completely happy in my life, not sure why, maybe I grew up not knowing how to be. I have a problem with relying on other people to make me happy because I can't seem to be happy with myself and I don't know why, I don't know what the underlying problem is - perhaps low self-esteem? or am I unhappy because I have no social life? But then part of me believes that if I did go out more I still wouldn't be happy. When I have been out in the past I haven't felt particularly happy. Maybe one has to be happy with themselves before they can be truly happy with other people? But in that case how can you make yourself happy especially when you're not satisfied with who you are. I just want to be grateful for life but I don't even know what makes me happy anymore, I feel completely lost.