You know, they say that the worst thing you can do is fight against it. Probably I'm thinking a lot that I need to figure out how to deal with my anxiety. I need to fix it. You know? Well I guess I should change my thinking to "You don't have to fix it." "Fix what?" Know what I'm saying...?
Well, the whole mindfulness business is a bit ridiculous if you ask me. BUT.
As every other thing, it has some legitimate points! For example, focusing
on your breath and observing the anxiety in you with a "compassionate"
mind will often lead to you relaxing and an I don't give a f*** attitude.
Your mind will tend to wander to the next social encounter but you will
re-direct it towards the observing of your breath. In a way, you'll accept
that your feelings are the way they are but you'll also see that they are
not you, you are just an independent observer, nomsayin?
If you want to read about it with the least possible bull****,
read The Mindfulness Solution by Ronald D. Siegel.
When I tried to re-direct my mind to just being/breathing etc prior to a
social encounter, it made me less anxious and I was able to talk somewhat
better. Of course, it won't make you a master conversationalist but it works
in a way because it makes you think "ok I can't do anything about it, it's
just who I am and there's no point in acting/hiding myself from others"
I don't know, but I think maybe a good solution for social anxiety is accepting it, not trying to fight it in any way, but also talking to people, and forcing yourself to be outgoing. You just have to not let your mind realize that by not trying to fight it and talking to people you are trying to fight it. Then you'll get in an obsessive web of entanglement like I often do.