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Small Talk: Conversation Starters

http://www.englishclub.com/speaking/small-talk_conversation-starters.htm

Talking about the weather

* Beautiful day, isn't it?
* Can you believe all of this rain we've been having?
* It looks like it's going to snow.
* It sure would be nice to be in Hawaii right about now.
* I hear they're calling for thunderstorms all weekend.
* We couldn't ask for a nicer day, could we?
* How about this weather?
* Did you order this sunshine?

Talking about current events

* Did you catch the news today?
* Did you hear about that fire on Fourth St?
* What do you think about this transit strike?
* I read in the paper today that the Sears Mall is closing.
* I heard on the radio today that they are finally going to start building the new bridge.
* How about those Reds? Do you think they're going to win tonight?

At the office

* Looking forward to the weekend?
* Have you worked here long?
* I can't believe how busy/quiet we are today, can you?
* Has it been a long week?
* You look like you could use a cup of coffee.
* What do you think of the new computers?

At a social event

* So, how do you know Justin?
* Have you tried the cabbage rolls that Sandy made?
* Are you enjoying yourself?
* It looks like you could use another drink.
* Pretty nice place, huh?
* I love your dress. Can I ask where you got it?

Out for a walk

* How old's your baby?
* What's your puppy's name?
* The tulips are sure beautiful at this time of year, aren't they.
* How do you like the new park?
* Nice day to be outside, isn't it?

Waiting somewhere

* I didn't think it would be so busy today.
* You look like you've got your hands full (with children or goods).
* The bus must be running late today.
* It looks like we are going to be here a while, huh?
* I'll have to remember not to come here on Mondays.
* How long have you been waiting?
 

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Really good info. I am reading a book and within the book it has a chapter about SA. It says that you can pick a word from the person's previous sentence and ask them to tell you more about it . This is especially helpful if there is a pause in the conversation.
 

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I could see someone taking these the wrong way:

* You look like you could use a cup of coffee.

* It looks like you could use another drink.

Otherwise, those are good conversation starters! They allow for very open ended answers and sound pretty natural. *bookmarked*

Really good info. I am reading a book and within the book it has a chapter about SA. It says that you can pick a word from the person's previous sentence and ask them to tell you more about it . This is especially helpful if there is a pause in the conversation.
What book is this?
 

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I could see someone taking these the wrong way:

* You look like you could use a cup of coffee.

* It looks like you could use another drink.

Otherwise, those are good conversation starters! They allow for very open ended answers and sound pretty natural. *bookmarked*

What book is this?
The book is titled Cognitive Beahavioural Therapy by Christine Wilding and Aileen Milne it is a "teach yourself" book
 

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Thanks for posting this.

I agree about the "you could use another drink" one, especially if you're a man talking to a woman. It might seem like you're trying to get her drunk, which is creepy. I think some of the others wouldn't work very well either, especially the weather. Personally when people start talking about the weather I'm turned off by them. Except, "Did you order this sunshine?" is hilarious. That could spur a sarcastic conversation and break the ice.
 

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Thanks for posting this, ill make some use of this for the future :)
 

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Ive learn its always a good chance that if you ask someone a question about them, they usually give a longer answer. try to avoid yes or no questions.
 

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Thanks! How about when trying to change the topic/conversation? Such as in situations where I can't respond or don't know what to say. Sometimes I come off as rude by just suddenly changing the topic because it seems like I'm ignoring their question or response. I'd often say, "Oh, I don't know" and then another question, but most of the time the convensation just die after this.
 
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