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Does anyone get sick of talking about their problems and just want to 'do' something?
I noticed this when I went to see the shrink for the first time. I sat there and thought, why am I here repeating myself? I really dont want to talk about it anymore. All the questions seem so done already, especially past issues, id rather move on and forward than to look at the past because Ive been there already, Ive dealt with it. Its just the same **** over and over. Now with talking about my SA, I get the same feeling. That all the things I worry about are yesterdays worries. I seem to be in a cycle and I can see that talking about it just keeps the cycle going. Doing something breaks the cycle!
I know that the only person thats going to help me is myself. So why do I need support when the only person you can rely on is yourself?
I feel like now, I know there is such a thing as SA and that Im not alone, Ive been validated or something so I can now enter society complete. Is that wrong of me? I mean that maybe Im looking for someone to say that Im normal and that SA is a normal human response.
Why am I even here then if I feel this? :um
 

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The problem IMO is that most therapists will apply only run-of-the-mill-therapy!!!
The sort of therapy that is socially and scientifically accepted and most tought at the moment.
Worst, often you don't even have a choice, because most national medical insurances only pay for those methods, at least over here.

But IMO mental disorders can't be treated with a cookie-cutter-approach!!!
My therapist among other "self-invented" or alternative methods applies "positive psychotherapy." There you focus on your strength with a positive approach to yourself and your life instead of dwelling on your problems and possible crappy past.

Unfortunately most people believe they have to "fight" to overcome their problem. Basically like if the medicine tastes bitter it's more effective!

Well, to cut a long story short: If you are uncomfortable with the therapy and you can afford it try to find one that applies a different type of method that suits your needs better!
 

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I do get frustrated and think why am I just talking and not doing anything.
I am fed of of talking as have had so many therapists and said the same things again and again and it is exhausting talking about it.

You're right that you can reinforce the negative thoughts by constantly repeating.
It sounds like healthy thoughts you're having that you can see there is a cycle you area maintaining and want to take some action.
 

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It's only a waste of time if you're going to therapy in replace of socialising. If you're still making efforts in life and you get therapy in your spare time then I don't see the harm.
 

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Does anyone get sick of talking about their problems and just want to 'do' something?
I noticed this when I went to see the shrink for the first time. I sat there and thought, why am I here repeating myself? I really dont want to talk about it anymore. All the questions seem so done already, especially past issues, id rather move on and forward than to look at the past because Ive been there already, Ive dealt with it. Its just the same **** over and over. Now with talking about my SA, I get the same feeling. That all the things I worry about are yesterdays worries. I seem to be in a cycle and I can see that talking about it just keeps the cycle going. Doing something breaks the cycle!
I know that the only person thats going to help me is myself. So why do I need support when the only person you can rely on is yourself?
I feel like now, I know there is such a thing as SA and that Im not alone, Ive been validated or something so I can now enter society complete. Is that wrong of me? I mean that maybe Im looking for someone to say that Im normal and that SA is a normal human response.
Why am I even here then if I feel this? :um
i made that realization after seeing seeing a few different counsellors. we just sat there talking and i thougt ''how is this is helping to change mefrom a shy person to an outgoing one ''

aftr that a got into the whole - goal setting/action plan, change your thoughts, change your behaviour approach.

i think its important to have support. a therpaist who i with you to push you along on an action plan. support you and also make you accountable fr your actions. but having someone to just talk to oer and over does nothing in regards to changing your life
 

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Therapy might work for some people, but my experience was that it was not useful in my situation. I tried it a few years ago for around ten sessions and I came out of it feeling worse than I did going in. I have since figured it is best to just get out there and do things. I spend enough time in my head anyway without needing to go over things with someone else. I can solve things on my own.
 

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therapy shouldnt be a substitute for friendship or real life, A therapis who mostly just sits there and listen is as effective at propping a large doll in a chair and telling your problems to it
 

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therapy shouldnt be a substitute for friendship or real life, A therapis who mostly just sits there and listen is as effective at propping a large doll in a chair and telling your problems to it
I agree. I really don't understand how someone can get paid a decent salary to sit there quietly while another person talks at them. Better yet, I don't understand how such a person can accept a salary for doing so.

I've seen 3 therapists in the last 1.5 years and none of them have helped me make progress.
 

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i haven't been sick of talking about my SA because i never do. what i am getting sick of is not doing anything about it.

i believe that going to a therapists is part of the solution but not the whole. one goes to get it off the chest and to find solutions. once one knows, then it's up to that person to follow through and finish. but most people struggle with this because to everyone (every human being) it's simpler to not do anything then to do something, even if by doing something it will be for the better. something or someone needs to motivate that person to do something. that something or someone needs to awake the feeling of wanting to do something with passion, determination, and commitment, and this has to be felt everyday. it's possible to change, it's possible to over come SA, it's possible and doable. it takes guts, determination, commitment, and finishing through. it may take some time but eventually one will change. thats how things work in life. on the other hand, if someone doesn't do anything about it but just talks about it, one will always remain in the same state.
 
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