hmm... I don't drink that much that my mood is altered. Thanks for your support you know I really do appreciate it. It's just weird and confuses me because he used to be in touch with me every day and used to try and meet up with me whenever we could. And now... it's just frustrating because I feel like I'm making all the effort and what's coming of it? I've not seen him for more than a few moments since that awkward night. I was worried that I've frustrated him too much.It's not stupid, it's only natural.
But you know drinking too often can make you have irrational thoughts and do irrational things. Too much of anything can, gives you something to think about. I know what it's like to rely something as a crutch and all it brings is more negative feelings about yourself because you don't feel free. You don't feel people love you because your emotions are altered all the time. Injecting some awareness for what causes some of your thoughts because I been down that road.
I only say this because I care and hope for a happy ending for you two.
Yeah it makes it seem cheap and just whatever and I should have let him know my situation sooner but it was moving quite quickly... He just hardly even speaks to me at the moment. And yes he's had stuff going on but I think it was even before that. We were texting before and I just said, I'll see you somtime soon, but said it as a question and he stopped replying. I don't know if I should have been more supportive for him this week but I didn't know what to say and didn't see him, I didn't want to make it worse so just have been giving him space.I hope you're feeling better now. You do have every right to tell your boyfriend not to talk about his exes. It's just inappropriate, and frankly, he should know better. Not wanting to hear about that stuff is by no means an inadequacy on your part! Does hearing him talk like that make you feel like sex is a pretty cheap thing for him? I think some guys feel like they have to live up to this image of being 'a man' when it comes to sexual conquests, particularly in front of their friends. But their personal feelings on the subject might be quite different. Even though he is more experienced, he might feel just as uncomfortable as you do. With regards to the question about sex and affection... They shouldn't be different things! They might wind up being different things when it comes to one night stands and that kind of thing. But that's not the way it should be in a loving relationship.
And BTW- even though he has stuff going on, maybe you should try to see him. He might appreciate the support too.
:agree Never in my life did I think that I'd still be a virgin at this age. But here I am and society's obsession with sex just makes me feel worse about my situation, like I'm defective. Not having to hear about other peoples sex lives every 5 seconds sure would make things a lot easier.Yeah everyone is sex-obsessed. In truth the reason i hate hearing about it is because i am 28 and still a virgin. It kind of makes me feel left out. The less i hear about sex the less frustrated i become.
Usually people that aren't having sex are being made fun of like "a loser who can't get laid", "no one wants him", etc. but I've never seen anyone regarding them as weird or creepy....but I hate it when people stigmatize people who aren't having sex as weird or creepy.
on some forum I saw a girl said that she regards those men who don't have sex as insaneUsually people that aren't having sex are being made fun of like "a loser who can't get laid", "no one wants him", etc. but I've never seen anyone regarding them as weird or creepy.