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Welll?? How easy is it for you to say these words? How long did you wait to say it in a relationship? Were u the first to say it or your partner ? Did you mean it your first time?

My bf of 7 months recently told me he loves me. It was when we were in bed together one night. I told him I love him too (its true).. I've loved him for about 4 months though just never told him!! I didn't want to freak him out because he has never really had this kind of relationship before. My last ex said it at 2months and I said it back but I didn't mean it and I didn't wanna do that to my current boyfriend. He told me I'm the only girl he's ever said it too :)

I'm so happy in love.. Now that he has sais it the first time I say it all the time. I kind of knew though before he said it by the way he held me and kissed me and the things he did for me.. And I know he knew I loved him too.

This is the first time I've been truly in love and I'm 23.

How old were you when you fell in love for the first time??
 

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i still have trouble saying it, even though i've been with my partner for years and love him to death. i think its just a quirk. i also have problems calling people by their names. hopefully he knows that i love him :/
 

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i still have trouble saying it, even though i've been with my partner for years and love him to death. i think its just a quirk. i also have problems calling people by their names. hopefully he knows that i love him :/
Weird I have the name thing too, I feel like its weird but I know everyone feels more connected when we use names. I just feel like its awkward and forced especially one on one..
 

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Weird I have the name thing too, I feel like its weird but I know everyone feels more connected when we use names. I just feel like its awkward and forced especially one on one..
phew, glad i am not the only one! i can't really articulate why though... i guess it almost seems aggressive to me... because when you use someones name you really command their attention, you know? but as hermione said, fear of a name increases fear of the thing itself :p
 

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I've never said those words to anyone, not a loved one or even a family member. I don't know why, I just having trouble saying it.
 

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I've dropped the L Word before with my ex-girlfriend (and she did too). Looking back at it, there was no way that was love. I cared about her yeah. But not loved. I think this was on our second meeting (we had a long-distance online relationship that translated into one based in real-life).
 

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In my long dist. relationship (online), he said it within a couple of weeks of us deciding to be in a relationship I think. He also said that he didn't want me to say it until I was sure. As much as I wanted to say it, I held off for awhile to give myself some time to figure out if I could really see the relationship going somewhere offline as well. I ended up saying it when I was sure that I meant it as far as the online relationship went. It's 2 and a half years on from then, and by this time next year we should know if we feel the same way in-person.
 
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