Saying "I love you"

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missalyssa

Discussion Starter · Sep 25, 2011

Welll?? How easy is it for you to say these words? How long did you wait to say it in a relationship? Were u the first to say it or your partner ? Did you mean it your first time?

My bf of 7 months recently told me he loves me. It was when we were in bed together one night. I told him I love him too (its true).. I've loved him for about 4 months though just never told him!! I didn't want to freak him out because he has never really had this kind of relationship before. My last ex said it at 2months and I said it back but I didn't mean it and I didn't wanna do that to my current boyfriend. He told me I'm the only girl he's ever said it too

I'm so happy in love.. Now that he has sais it the first time I say it all the time. I kind of knew though before he said it by the way he held me and kissed me and the things he did for me.. And I know he knew I loved him too.

This is the first time I've been truly in love and I'm 23.

How old were you when you fell in love for the first time??

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obsidianavenger

· #2 · Sep 25, 2011

i still have trouble saying it, even though i've been with my partner for years and love him to death. i think its just a quirk. i also have problems calling people by their names. hopefully he knows that i love him :/

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missalyssa

Discussion Starter · #3 · Sep 25, 2011

obsidianavenger said:
i still have trouble saying it, even though i've been with my partner for years and love him to death. i think its just a quirk. i also have problems calling people by their names. hopefully he knows that i love him :/

Weird I have the name thing too, I feel like its weird but I know everyone feels more connected when we use names. I just feel like its awkward and forced especially one on one..

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obsidianavenger

· #4 · Sep 25, 2011

missalyssa said:
Weird I have the name thing too, I feel like its weird but I know everyone feels more connected when we use names. I just feel like its awkward and forced especially one on one..

phew, glad i am not the only one! i can't really articulate why though... i guess it almost seems aggressive to me... because when you use someones name you really command their attention, you know? but as hermione said, fear of a name increases fear of the thing itself

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UniversalPolymath

· #5 · Sep 25, 2011

obsidianavenger said:
i still have trouble saying it, even though i've been with my partner for years and love him to death.

Ditto. There are a lot of people in my life that I love dearly, though, and it's not easy to tell any of them.

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The Silent 1

· #6 · Sep 25, 2011

I've never said those words to anyone, not a loved one or even a family member. I don't know why, I just having trouble saying it.

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nkprasad12

· #7 · Sep 25, 2011

Same as above. I don't think I've ever said the words in my life.

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luceo

· #8 · Sep 25, 2011

Only ever said/heard those words in a platonic sense. Even then it makes me feel awkward.

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phoenixwright

· #9 · Sep 25, 2011

I've dropped the L Word before with my ex-girlfriend (and she did too). Looking back at it, there was no way that was love. I cared about her yeah. But not loved. I think this was on our second meeting (we had a long-distance online relationship that translated into one based in real-life).

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SuperSky

· #10 · Sep 25, 2011

In my long dist. relationship (online), he said it within a couple of weeks of us deciding to be in a relationship I think. He also said that he didn't want me to say it until I was sure. As much as I wanted to say it, I held off for awhile to give myself some time to figure out if I could really see the relationship going somewhere offline as well. I ended up saying it when I was sure that I meant it as far as the online relationship went. It's 2 and a half years on from then, and by this time next year we should know if we feel the same way in-person.

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