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I read this and found it interesting. Thought I'd share

Everyone has heard of alcoholism and depression, the two top mental health care problems. But number three on this list is social anxiety disorder, formerly called "social phobia". Very few people have heard of social anxiety disorder (the acronym of which should be the "true" SAD).
How is social anxiety going to "compete" against all the other, but more unusual, mental health problems, such as schizophrenia, multiple personality disorder, Tourette's Syndrome, antisocial personality disorder, bipolar disorder, or even another anxiety disorder, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder?
Social anxiety disorder, in comparison, is downright boring.

It has no "strange" elements that are visible to others. There are no "sexy" elements to it. It is a disease of inhibition (shyness) and avoidance. A person with social anxiety disorder typically shrinks into the background and is usually not heard. Can you see a movie-of-the-week about a very shy person who rarely leaves the house except to go to work, who has few friends, and is afraid of answering the door or the phone? This would be highly interesting drama, wouldn't it? This scenario partially explains the lack of understanding the general public has about social anxiety. People with social anxiety appear to be "normal" in every regard. No one can "see" the social anxiety raging inside.

The second problem is that people with social anxiety are afraid of making appointments with mental health care professionals. Why? It is hard to call and talk to another person, in the first place. Then, if they are able to overcome this difficulty, the "professional" typically does not understand what the socially-anxious person is living with, and the depth of fear and anxiety the person is living with. Therapists usually prescribe a few relaxation techniques, some medication, and tell the person that they are really "OK", they appear normal, and nothing is wrong with them.

This scenario, which can happen time and time again, is highly debilitating for people with social anxiety. It reinforces the fact that they have a horrible, life-restricting disorder that causes extreme anxiety in most social situations, AND NO ONE CAN EVEN UNDERSTAND IT, let alone help them.

"I must be the only one in the world who has this horrible disease.
"I am a freak. I am just weird. No one else in the world is going through what I'm going through."

The feelings of helplessness and hopelessness that are experienced are intense; in fact, many professionals see this as "depression" and never get at what the person is depressed about (i.e., being socially anxious).
Credit goes to Social Anxiety Institute
https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/social-anxiety-better-known
 

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Wait till next year, SA is the new trend, you can even see how movies, literature and poetry are talking about it more and more.
 

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Yes, agree, agree, agree, agree, agree!!!! Glad you posted this. I would like bring up The Perks of Being a Wallflower though as an example of a movie with a main character with an anxiety disorder. Maybe it isn't SA, but the guy is really shy. Still, it's like you mention SA and people are like WTF? They don't know what it is. I really do feel like a huge part of the lack of awareness is because it's so hard to make social anxiety seem interesting or 'sexy' in any way. I think sometimes, depending on how you act, shyness can have a sense of mysterious allure to it (creepy sounding, I know). But then, think of how awkward we all are... sort of spoils that sexy mysterious allure huh?

Too bad. I think if more folks knew of SA it wouldn't be so damn hard on us. There might be some tiny sense of understanding.
 

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I am not sure if there are any "specialist" who would actually take the time to go deeper and figure out what exactly made us SA in the first place instead of making it sound like it's just "depression" but I know I'm not depressed. I do wanna go out, I do wanna meet people but the anxiety makes it difficult as opposed to being depressed and wanting to just stay home or be alone.
 

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Because to the common person, someone with SA's just considered weird, and they don't want a further explanation than tha. It's something hard for people to grasp.
 

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Because to the common person, someone with SA's just considered weird, and they don't want a further explanation than tha. It's something hard for people to grasp.
I don't know about weird. I'd say more of an anti-social a-hole, a snob, and many other synonyms. At least more than one person has thought that of me.
 

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Other conditions are more exciting and news worthy.
Psychotics are more interesting for instance because they kill, maim, and torture and make more exciting news stories.

We are just quiet bores.

Simple as that sad to say.
 

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"Normal" people seem to think SA is just shyness and that it can be turned off, "you don't need treatment, you just need to snap out of it" was what I was told once. I think most of the professionals will treat you for general anxiety and depression. Using medications to help with other aspects of the anxiety and not exclusively for SA. I was prescribed anti depressants and then after 4 sessions with the psychiatrist I was told I was OK because I had no thoughts of suicide lol.
 

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Wait till next year, SA is the new trend, you can even see how movies, literature and poetry are talking about it more and more.
Have any examples thus far? I would like to see.
 

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I found this funny, somehow.

And besides, it's not like we want SA to be known. I'd much rather appear normal or shy than having people call me that girl with SA

The very nature of SA makes us want to hide it and ourselves from the rest of the world
 
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