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Is there anyone else here who feels like me?:

I have made enough progress in overcoming SA that I can talk to people, make regular friends, and generally hide my SA. In short I can act like a 'normal' person.

However, I still want to hide at times and over analyze social situations. Friends make me tired and I feel like if there were a way to take a couple of months off from them I would (not because they have done anything wrong, it's just me).

I don't want to be medicated or go to a therapist. I think that this is just me and I have come to where I accept it. I feel like I have made nearly all the improvement that I am going to make and this is just as far as my social skills are capable of going. Some people are naturally good with people but I am not. I have progressed to being socially capable but I know that I will never have tons of friends or be that person who can make friends with anyone. And all this is okay. Well maybe a bit disappointing, since originally I thought my SA was holding me back but have come to realize that it is actually my temperment that will never allow me to be some sort of social master.

Unfortunately, society is not based on people like us. You can't call in to work "socially anxious" for a month or two. You can't take a spring break from friends. I wish that society was more understanding/accepting of my perosonality type.

I think that I might improve a (small) bit more but the primary reason that I like coming to this forum is for a sense of not being alone. For most of my life I had no idea what SA was and am very happy to find that there are others like me.

Is anyone with me?
 

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Is there anyone else here who feels like me?:

I have made enough progress in overcoming SA that I can talk to people, make regular friends, and generally hide my SA. In short I can act like a 'normal' person.

However, I still want to hide at times and over analyze social situations. Friends make me tired and I feel like if there were a way to take a couple of months off from them I would (not because they have done anything wrong, it's just me).

I don't want to be medicated or go to a therapist. I think that this is just me and I have come to where I accept it. I feel like I have made nearly all the improvement that I am going to make and this is just as far as my social skills are capable of going. Some people are naturally good with people but I am not. I have progressed to being socially capable but I know that I will never have tons of friends or be that person who can make friends with anyone. And all this is okay. Well maybe a bit disappointing, since originally I thought my SA was holding me back but have come to realize that it is actually my temperment that will never allow me to be some sort of social master.

Unfortunately, society is not based on people like us. You can't call in to work "socially anxious" for a month or two. You can't take a spring break from friends. I wish that society was more understanding/accepting of my perosonality type.

I think that I might improve a (small) bit more but the primary reason that I like coming to this forum is for a sense of not being alone. For most of my life I had no idea what SA was and am very happy to find that there are others like me.

Is anyone with me?
Yeah, I feel my best when I'm like, "I'm extremely shy, and if they don't like it, they can kiss my ***."
 

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I recently learned from a psychological article that there is no way to "overcome mental illnesses," in the sense that there is no cure for them. Rather, one can treat it, that is reduce its severity to a point where it doesn't interfere with our purposes or goals.

In that case, one can't cure or overcome generalized social phobia but rather reduce its severity to just mild nervousness or shyness, where one can form meaningful relationships and have a career. I definitely want to live my life with just having a mild shyness to substitute for generalized social phobia permanently.
 

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Good job on overcoming your SA!

Think about all the great things that you have accomlised by overcoming most of your SA- all the new people you can talk to and all the new friends you have. Think about all these sucesses instead of beating yourself up over the things you cannot yet accomplish perfectly.

No one pattern of behavior is a fundamental part of your personality- things can change. As you get more and more comfortable around people, the tiredness you feel in social situations will most likely lessen. I know that as I am overcoming my anxiety, social situations feel a lot less draning.

Even if you still continue to feel a little anxiety in social situations, it does not really matter. The only time that becomes a bad thing is when you avoid doing things you truly want to do because of this anxiety. A little anxiety from time to time is not a bad thing at all.
 

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I'd never accept living with any treatable mental disorder. In fact, if somehow all the medication and drugs in the world disappeared and I had to live the rest of my life naturally, I would kill myself immediately.
 
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