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Do you guys prefer to be the quiet one in a group of loud people or like the loud one in a group of quiet people ?
 

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Loud one in a group of quiet people. Being the quiet one makes me feel that I don't belong in the group and that I need to speak more.
 

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It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.
 

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I don't care as long as I'm different. Either way, I'm the one providing balance haha.
 

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I thought i'd ask cos outwith my friends , family where we are all on the same wavelength sometimes i find myself in group situations and it seems like everyone is a step ahead of me or sumfin i dunno kinda like my only contribution to the conversation is the occasional awkward outburst of " Hehe, yeah no **** guys" or sumfin n then theirs times where i'm like the loud one n like nobody else is saying much n it's like ooookay someone call a doctor this place is dead typea thing.

But yeah i just thought id see if i was the only one that found myself in those awkward situations and what situation you guys felt most comfortable in.
 

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I tend to withdraw in louder groups and feel like I need to step up in quieter groups. I don't feel confident or enjoy being the loud one and I just feel out of place in louder groups. So I hate both scenarios.

I prefer groups where I'm on the same level as everyone else so that I can be myself.
 

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I have two small groups of friends. In one, the less intense group, I'm generally the happy/hyper one, and in the other, loud and intense group, I'm the quiet, moody one. A lot of my personality is determined by how the people around me make me feel. I much prefer being the loudish person in a quiet"er" group, because I'm more comfortable when I don't feel pressured to keep up with the loud group. :p lol, if that made any sense to anyone.
 

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Loud one in a group of quiet people. Being the quiet one makes me feel that I don't belong in the group and that I need to speak more.
I know what you mean. I feel like I need to speak up more but I would rather be the quieter person in the group.
 

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Quiet in a group of loud people. I can't really talk either way, but I'd rather stay silent...if the group was quiet, I would feel like I can't talk at all, more than in a group of people who are loud/already talking, but then, I feel like I'd be interfering if I were to talk and besides, if they are loud, most likely they would not even hear me if I were to speak....:um
 

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I've never been the loud one, lol.
 
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