[voodoochild16]

So recently I met someone that im actually attracted too that I wouldn't have to hook up with just for the sake of having a *girlfriend*. Honestly I've met her at the bar while I was drunk (not wasted). I've been texting her back and forth and she still likes me, we're trying to make an actual time for a real date other than being seperated in a scattered bar. Though I'm worried that with me being undrunk she might get the wrong picture of who she really thinks I am. Has anyone been in this situation before?, having meeting someone while drunk and then going out with this person when your not drunk and being successful?. I'm kind of stuck, and I'm hopin it works out.

 

[AndrewN]

Yeah, i've done that a bunch of times. You said that you wern't wasted, so i wouldn't be nervous. Just be yourself man, act cool and don't rush your words. Sometimes i've asked to go out for drinks then i can have a couple pints and use the booze boost. It's up to you, good luck.

 

[Aurora]

Im female, and Ive met every guy ive been out with while under the influence of alcohol. Not something to be proud of. But I too have felt that they might get the wrong impression if they see my sober. But then Im a pretty quiet drunk.
In the end, it doesnt matter how you met them, its what happens after. I can say that some of the best dates ive been on is where the guy said nothing or very little and we just laughed. Just have fun. Dont have to be serious and get into the hard questions. Just 'go with the flow'. If she wants to take it further, so be it, or if you want to take it slow, be honest with her, tell her where she stands. Nothing I hated more than when you dont know where you stand with a guy.
Getting to know someone takes more than just 1 date. Thats why I dont get people who go on 1 date and make an assumtion of the person. Its not a job interview!
I think the most important thing when starting to date some is, have a laugh, dont take it seriously, but be honest about your feelings.

 

[voodoochild16]

Yeah, i've done that a bunch of times. You said that you wern't wasted, so i wouldn't be nervous. Just be yourself man, act cool and don't rush your words. Sometimes i've asked to go out for drinks then i can have a couple pints and use the booze boost. It's up to you, good luck.

I obviously act completely different when I am drunk... it seriously almost a temporary cure to use when you really need it but it can lead to alcohol abuse, but ive never let myself get addicted to anything including smoking or any other kinds of drugs, its just not my thing, like most of us here do not have a ton of friends and aren't pressured or influenced by others to do drugs.

Im female, and Ive met every guy ive been out with while under the influence of alcohol. Not something to be proud of. But I too have felt that they might get the wrong impression if they see my sober. But then Im a pretty quiet drunk.
In the end, it doesnt matter how you met them, its what happens after. I can say that some of the best dates ive been on is where the guy said nothing or very little and we just laughed. Just have fun. Dont have to be serious and get into the hard questions. Just 'go with the flow'. If she wants to take it further, so be it, or if you want to take it slow, be honest with her, tell her where she stands. Nothing I hated more than when you dont know where you stand with a guy.
Getting to know someone takes more than just 1 date. Thats why I dont get people who go on 1 date and make an assumtion of the person. Its not a job interview!
I think the most important thing when starting to date some is, have a laugh, dont take it seriously, but be honest about your feelings.

Officially I have never been on a "Date" but I don't think it is a complicated as most people with severe SAD do. I myself suffered from severe SAD before but thanks to my job I overcame the most severe part of SAD, so I don't have the fear of any social situation with the idea that it's rock science and I don't even want to leave my room etc. I guess the only answer is time, and just to take things really slow. She lives an hour away from me and I am moving over there not for her but myself because my friend lives out there too... but without telling her the reason why I am moving closer to her maybe things will work out great.

Anyone with any similar experiences please do not hesitate to share your experiences, I'm glad I created this thread.