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how did you mention it? what was her reaction afterward?

not a big deal honestly. i think girls would more likely like a guy who was honest and open and comfortable enough to mention something like that casually. i actually think that displays a fair amount of confidence too.

and the age was fine too, most like to hear they look younger. well except for me but i get told i look 15 and i don't enjoy knowing i look like a kid rather than a woman

 

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haha.. definitely flirting with you. if she mentioned it like "oh by the way i work at denny's near blah blah blah" then it does seem like she wants you to show up.
well whichever way she said it, you just casually go in and be like "so i was driving by, and i remembered you said you worked here" etc

 

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I would say you did okay.

I am so glad you didn't put your hand on her fanny and say "Hey Baby, you and me can party!". :afr

:um

uh-oh. watch your language, don't wanna get a warning

 

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I would say you did okay.

I am so glad you didn't put your hand on her fanny and say "Hey Baby, you and me can party!". :afr

dude how is still here. this is easily one of the most ban-worthy SAS posts ever.

and it's not a comment on the mod so i hope i don't get a warning for expressing my disagreement that a terribly vulgar and offensive post remains here, which just happens to be from one of the SAS members with the most power

 

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never mention to a girl you have mental problems. thats just a red flag. also if you have anything that could be consider geeky, keep it to yourself. theres several girls on this site that say geekiness is cute, and it is girls love that but not if they dont know you well. these are things that need to come out later in the friendship/relationship

how is it a "red flag"?
and what would be considered geeky specifically? why should one hide that? it would be hiding a part of one's self to try and impress the other person which just seems silly.
and if you do have a lot of those stereotipical "geeky" qualities then revealing them to a girl later on in the relationship wouldn't be a huge difference, if she doesn't like those qualities she wouldn't like them from the first time meeting you.

if you are always going initially hide those parts of yourself from girls then how will you find one who you know will like those qualities?

and how exactly did you say it AprilEthereal? i still think that if you were speaking with confidence and positive body language then i would not seem like a big deal. what do you think her reaction was?

 

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things like comic books, star wars/trek, D&D, magic the gathering. i didnt really say hide them just dont bring them up until later in the relationship

ah come on, mentioning thats one of your hobbies isn't a bad thing at all. it's not like you are saying that you are so obsessed with D&D that you've spent most of your life cooped in your dingy basement pretending it's your reality.
i think it's uncommon for someone to suddenly judge you solely based on those hobbies and ignoring everything else you like. and a lot of girls like star wars/trek too, and maybe less but some still like the others.

i'd love if a guy who randomly approached me said he was into comics since i enjoy reading them occasionally too and we could talk a bit about them and mention our favourites. i'd find that 50x more interesting than if he was just into sports.
i tend to read comics that the average person may not be interested in (reading American Splendor atm but i like more "mainstream" stuff like sandman and watchmen [which became so popular that i know of girls who have read it]).

basically don't hide any nerdy qualities!! it's not a bad thing at all. in fact i don't know why those hobbies have to mean you are a "geek". just something you enjoy doing in your freetime, it shouldn't define or stereotype you.

 

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While we are on the topic of "geeky" things:

I like DradonballZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I used to like Vegeta a lot but now my favorite has to be that guy Goku (totally off topic)

i was never a fan of dragonballZ, but i really loved pokemon.. and i still like it a lot, hah. i was even jesse from team rocket for halloween.

 

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i hate to say this, but if i were that girl i would be scared off if a guy i'd just met said he had anxiety issues. i'm okay with guys having anxiety, but to me the fact that he mentioned it right away (as in, first conversation) would be a bad sign.

how is that a bad sign?

man, i just don't get girls sometimes. and i am a girl.

 

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it's the first-meeting thing. for me, it's not that i expect guys to not show weakness, it's that it's too soon for that. i like the idea of anxiety being common ground, but not immediately. it comes later.

so anxiety is a weakness? isn't that basically implying that everyone here is weak because we have severe anxiety? or is it that guys specifically aren't supposed to show weaknesses?
i'm not trying to badger you or pick on your or anything to that affect, i'm just curious, since it seems like odd and close-minded thinking and a bit hypocritical.

showing emotions is not a weakness at all, as well. neither is honesty. both are very good atributes in fact. i think our society is past the age of when men were expected to be the stronger sex and showing any characteristics that go against that (which have sometimes been referred to as feminine characteristics...) display "weaknesses" or "inferiority".

i think it's very unfairly discriminatory towards those with mood disorders, mental illness or emotional difficulties in general - almost like the ignorant view that a lot of clueless normies have (lol, "normies" being a made-up term for those who are free and clueless of those problems).
i find it also sexist towards both men and women, in fact (NOT a personal attack, or an assumption towards you at all, just to be clear).

i know i'm going too far in analyzing your post so i'm not trying to put you down or point my finger at you, i kind of just trailed off with connecting ideas....