what aggravates my anxiety quite a bit is the rudeness or indifference of young people. I practice courtesy and civility and it is often returned with apathy among the young; this is probably why older people put me at ease. Politeness often disarms and creates friendlier environments. Some people think manners are bourgeois niceties and unnecessary, but I think they are tremendously important. Would anyone feel less anxious in public if people were generally more friendly and polite?