[downbutnotout]

I have noticed some comments on these forums about having problems with others saying "they have no life" etc.

I have had these problems in the past aswell.

It seems that because i dont like going out, people dont like me for it.

They hate me for not doing what everyone else does.

Why can't people be friends with someone for the person they are, rather than how popular/cool they are?....

Its like, if you like games, you are considered a geek with no life. However, if you go out to nightclubs alot, you are "cool".

I judge people individually in terms of personality. It is possible for someone to be outgoing/popular but still like games (my best friend is like this).

But the majority of outgoing types are very judgemental, and nasty, especially towards introverts. They laugh at people like me.

Although they have wanted to hang around with me for some bizarre reason.

Why would i want to hang around with people i feel uncomfortable with.

 

[downbutnotout]

If you know enough people to have enemies, you are doing better than me.

Its people i used to know, or people i might know in the future. I make enemies quicker than i make friends, even though i try to be really friendly etc.

These days i'm basically a recluse. I dont want the hassle of making friends, because there are alot of fake people out there that may be nice on the surface, but then you get to know them properly, and they are really nasty.

The way i feel, is that basically i'm one of the biggest losers here. My social experience is very poor. Maybe you have had a bad time too. But i can assure you, my life has sucked so far.

 

[downbutnotout]

You can't really let middle/high school experiences chart the way you deal with life, most kids are basically animals not people. They sniff out blood in the water and us SAers bleeding, fresh easy meat. You get it stuck in your craw and you think that's how it has always been and that's how it will always be. But when I got passed the bullying experiences and stopped wishing ill to the people that did me most harm in school I saw that whether their life had turned out good or bad, they barely remembered me or tried to put aside what they did to me.

Sometimes of course there are people that don't grow up and it crosses over to college but you can't let them get to you. Think about how many people don't wish you ill, why get fixated on the few that don't? But I know it's easier said than done I still feel you're healthier than me because i'm to the point where I won't get into any relationships with anyone for fear that they'll hate me down the line. At least you're willing to put yourself out there, I let my distorted thoughts control me.

NO NO you dont understand. I dont actually go anywhere. I always talk about past experiences. I haven't left my house unless i see my counsellor etc.

I have never had a girlfriend, and i have no job right now. My life has been really uneventful, and socially non-existent.

I guess some people see me in real life aswell and think i'm (maybe) "normal" because i think i have good talking skills. But that doesn't mean i'm confident, it just means i know how to talk.

 

[downbutnotout]

Even though you are an introvert, you should not let them laugh at you. This causes one to be depressed and feel as if their personality type is the reason for the depression, which is not true. You are an introvert because it makes you happy. Stand up for yourself whether verbally or physically.

I remember in high school some guy threw something at me in class, then I got up, walked up to him in the middle of the lecture and punched him in the face extremely hard. I then returned to my seat and the guy was so scared he didn't even move for the rest of the class. Guess what the teacher did? Absolutely NOTHING. I was not suspended, nor was I reported to the principal. He simply told me to apologize to the guy...I did but did not mean it.

Another experience. There was this guy on my basketball team who grabbed me and pinned my against the wall playfully, but even though I knew he was just joking around, I said to him "get your ****in hands off of me or you won't end up seeing tomorrow" and I was serious, at which point he just walked away.

Sounds good, but whenever i would stand up for myself, the other guy would have about 3 guys to help him out etc.

It was always me as a minority vs the majority.

You're right, i am happy to be an introvert, its just that extroverts think i shouldn't stay in. I hate that. I never liked being told what to do. I really resent the extroverts that made my life a misery.