I don't force myself to do that, in fact I love being with other people, if only my 'friends' were to invite me to parties.Usually, I just get smashed so I don't have to deal with the anxiety of attending these. I think I'd do fine if I had some Adderall, but I can't get a hold of any on such short notice. So... how do you guys deal? Do you ever put yourself out there and force yourself to attend gathering full of people you don't know?
I'm going anyway, but words of encouragement would be nice. I can't remember the last time I went to something like this, and this time I'm really not keen on getting black-out drunk and making a fool out of myself. The latter option - acting like a normal person, conversing - is very intimidating, though.
Haha I kinda pictured the same thing when I read that. I don't know though; maybe knowing everyone else in the room is also feeling anxious would allow us to open up more.hahaha... can you imagine a party with SAers?
It would be the most awkward and silent party you've ever been too.
I am in the exact same situation. Every time my boyfriend tells me we are going out with this friends, I immediately get a racing heart, get nauseous, irritable, can't breathe, etc, etc. until we get there. Then I clam up...and feel the same way, that I can't keep up and don't know what to say. So I too take a drink. It definitely helps me open up and drop the shyness a bit but then everyone gets a good laugh (friendly laugh of course, not mean) at how "chatty" I suddenly become (although I'm drunk enough at that point to not really care).My problem stems from the fact that my boyfriend and his friends are extremely outgoing and when we all get together I find myself unable to join in the conversations because I'm worried about whether it's going to come out right or not, and it's difficult to keep up with the energy level they have. Drinking allows me to open up more, but then I end up saying stupid stuff I later regret.
It's a lose/lose.