[mixolydian]

Hi guys, just felt the need to post as I've just gotten back from a house party. Usually when I am at a party my night ends one of two ways; either I will be at home in bed by 9:00 feeling more inadequate and depressed than I was before I left, or passed out by 9:30 with a number of painful regrets. Fortunately tonight was slightly different. I was very nervous heading into the party as I wasn't with anyone so that was quite awkward. However, I had a few drinks which loosened me up and spent a relatively painless few hours talking with a small group of people. The party was quite small which helped a lot and I am now home at 12:30, a new record for me.

Anyways, I just wanted to hear some peoples experiences in party situations and any tips you have to cope in them. I have so many painful memories of high school parties where I would feel so incredibly inadequate and just couldn't grasp what the hell was wrong with me. I still have no idea why people enjoy parties, I just don't get it.

 

[Joshy123]

Well most of the socialising I do is at parties, because I can curb my SA with alcohol.

Okay, so tips....
1. I recommend going to the party with somebody you're comfortable with. A close friend you can hang out with most of the night if you needed to. (I do this alot. Offer to take them to the party, so you arrive at the same time, etc.)
2. Have a drink or 2 before going. (Don't drink and drive. If you get a lift there, have a few before hand. This way you are loosened up before hand. Worst case? Park around the corner, skull a can or 2 and walk in.)

Thats all I have. I usually drink alot at parties. I have a big one 2morrow night, and I plan to drink a hell of a lot, because I won't really know anybody there.

 

[jnm123]

just get really wasted.. thats what i do bahaha thats bad.. but it really opens you up as far as socializing

 

[Catching Fire]

I would try to set goals for yourself. Like trying to strike up a conversation with someone you don't know or try to flirt with someone there. That way you challenge your anxiety and can get a sense of accomplishment from going to it.