was this the case for anyones parents? what was your opinion on your parents choice to do this? how do you feel it effected you?
I remember @ the age of around 7 we were going some where in the car,was this the case for anyones parents? what was your opinion on your parents choice to do this? how do you feel it effected you?
Yeah, I was in the same boat with my family. I don't see how two people who hate each other can live together in peace. It's certainly not in the benefit of the children. I would say it's more for financial reasons, and perhaps to save face with themselves or the community.I remember @ the age of around 7 we were going some where in the car,
They turned round to me in the back seat; "If we get divorced you're going in to the orphanage"
it was said with such malice that I never got over that.
I know theres a lot more, but I dont really wanna drag that up, my dad coming home at three am and kicking in the kitchen window, my mom attacking him with a frying pan and carving knife, Being told by one "get the police now", and then being told by the other; "that'll be the last thing you do.."
This was pretty much the case with my parents. My mom's the kind of person who doesn't like admit that she has issues. I think she stuck with her marriage out of pure pride, and some misguided belief that it would be good for me. Really neither of my parents had the courage to get divorced, and they didn't have the means to live separately, so they just kind of muddled it out. They fought all the time, and they don't respect each other, and yet they tried to put up this huge front for my sake that in most cases was completely transparent. I agree, it isn't healthy for any of the parties involved.Yeah, I was in the same boat with my family. I don't see how two people who hate each other can live together in peace. It's certainly not in the benefit of the children. I would say it's more for financial reasons, and perhaps to save face with themselves or the community.
my story is extremely similar to yours. my parents' relationship has been terrible for as long as I can remember. they would have loud screaming fights and swear and name-call in front of me and my brothers ever since we were kids. my mom would pretty much just try to escape, either by drinking and acting like a fool or working as much as possible so she'd never have to be home. they'd also definitely pull the machiavellian thing and badmouth one another to their children and try to get us to favor one of them over the other. my mom absolutely loathes my dad. I can't understand why she doesn't leave, but I think it's largely because of the money thing. after raising his children and dedicating more than 30 miserable years to him, she feels entitled to at least have a nice house to live in.This is really horrible but I honestly think my parents are still together only because my mum loves the house so much. She left him twice but came back both times basically because she missed the house. I do think she's also grown accustomed to being with my dad, even though she used to spend so much of her time ranting to me about what a horrible person he is. I think my dad is a bit deluded and thinks they have some sort of great relationship but there's always hints of resentment on her part. It was a lot worse when I was younger. They were both a passive-aggressive nightmare, sulking and *****ing at one another. And I was the eight year-old therapist for my mum. :roll
I totally agree. Children cannot help but absorb and respond to the emotional states of their parents.if you're not happy and your home is an unhappy place, your kids are going to pick up on it and be unhappy themselves.