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*Commence slightly nonsensical ranting now*

So, each time I visit home I am reminded of why my major life goal is to move to the Yukon and subsist on caribou. I might visit more often if it was just my sister, my mother and I, but my father keeps coming home, no matter how far away we mail him.

A small child for whom my sister used to baby sit sold my mother two boxes of girl scout cookies. There are about fifteen cookies per boxes, and through careful rationing and much surveillance we managed to make the first box last two days. The second one sat on the counter for a few days afterwards. Then my dad came home.

He spent the day sitting on the couch in his pants, watching slightly pornographic westerns on television, and for the most part everyone left him alone. Then as he dug around on the counter he discovered the box of cookies. I was in the living room at the time, so he asked me, whose cookies are these. I told him, they're Mom's, and he said, well, not anymore. He then proceeded to down all fifteen cookies in less than ten minutes.

I don't think I'm exaggerating when I say Girl Scout cookies are damn expensive. I was a Girl Scout once. I know it's true. In our troop they used to go for fifteen dollars a pop. I also know that from time to time I'm guilty of eating a bag of potato chips in less than twenty-four hours. But a bag of chips costs five bucks. He ate fifteen dollars in ten minutes.

And now today is here, and he's been slinging stuff around, swearing and yelling that there's nothing in the house to eat. My mom and sister are out on a trip, and so it's just been me and three terrified dogs all day. I've seen him act like this before, and I've even seen him act worse, but for some reason it's just really affecting me today. The dogs and I have just holed up in my room, some of us crying and some of us burrowing into the laundry basket. I guess since I've been away and haven't had to deal with his entitled little prissy tantrums it just feels terrible. I hate having to live like this. I hate that my mom and sister have to live like this. I'm just so fed up with him being so condescending toward me and saying, Someday you'll grow up and then you'll think just like I do, and at the same time being such an immature little baby who thinks that just because there's a woman in the house he should be served meals on a silver platter.

It's also frustrating that he can have tantrums all he wants, but if I or anyone else in the family criticizing anything we just have an attitude and ought to be smacked. Isn't it supposed to be the teenager who has the attitude and the parent who has to deal with it? So much for being able to be a teenager while I was a teenager. I guess I get to be the grownup my whole damn life.

Sorry, that rambled a bit toward the end. But I feel a little better now, anyway.
 

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I empathize.

Those controlling, temperamental, unpredictable, angry, mood-swinging, non-negotiable people are AWFUL to live with.

I'm sorry you don't have any other options. As a teen, you're technically in his house, so his rules and rants and ridiculousness.

You can get through this. I hope you and your mom and sister can come through it alright. And when you're a parent, you'll remember to NEVER be like him. You can get away. There's hope. Just wait it out. You're not alone.
 

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I empathize.

Those controlling, temperamental, unpredictable, angry, mood-swinging, non-negotiable people are AWFUL to live with.

I'm sorry you don't have any other options. As a teen, you're technically in his house, so his rules and rants and ridiculousness.
Not really, parents don't have as much control as they might go around thinking they do. They lose A LOT of power over you the moment you hit 16, and I don't mean just driving. Many will profess it's their house so it's their rules and if you don't like it they'll kick you out.

First, they can't actually kick you out. They have a financial responsibility to support you as imposed by law. And if they don't like that maybe they shouldn't have made a kid in the first place. It's their responsibility until you turn 18.

Second, even when you do turn 18 they have to evict you through normal channels, so that's a 90 day eviction notice.

Third, just because they have responsibility doesn't make you their property. You're a person with all of the rights any other person has.
 

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I just want a cookie.
 

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"The dogs and I have just holed up in my room, some of us crying and some of us burrowing into the laundry basket." What

That fat ******* is lucky he doesn't have a son to whip his ***
 

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"The dogs and I have just holed up in my room, some of us crying and some of us burrowing into the laundry basket." What
My little collie found one of my sweaters in the laundry basket and decided that would be a good sleeping place. She just hopped in and made herself to home.
 

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Its quite common for in your teenage years for you to fear your parents. After all these years of dealing with my mom the only thing that has solved the nagging is physically moving away from her, sometimes that is all that can be done.
 
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