So I see the guy today. He came in earlier than expected and to be honest I didn't expect to see him at all because he predominantly works remotely from home. Husband told me to "stay away from him" so I figured I would change my route within the office so that he wouldn't spot me or make any comments about me.
The ladies' toilets are (conveniently for him) situated behind his desk and he happened to be talking with his back in the direction of the ladies' so I thought I would go right then when he wasn't focusing on me. I wasn't in the best of moods either due to it being
that time of the month so I started to walk to the ladies', but out of the corner of my eye I saw him look up, stop talking and stare directly at my face.
My girl friends have said he is being a total creep and a predator. My guy friend says there are "feelings" there between us.
He has already asked my same guy friend how old I was (37 - he is 39) and if I am single, and my guy friend said "she is 37 and she's married." The guy went "Oh, that's frustrating". He had known for 5 years I am married, but he's acting so weird.
His friends outside of work seem to know who I am because they have approached me, stared at me and called me "fine" - which I am most certainly not because if this guy has a calendar full of bikini-clad women, well, that would make them hotter than me! LOL
When he talks about work, he sounds so intelligent but seeing him act the way he does outside of work he is like a different person, staring at me and making comments like "I would love to go up the back of her."
He and I rarely talk as we work on different teams, but even when we did it was still pretty much very rare because he always seemed very busy with his own responsibilities. On one occasion I was putting something away and we had a chat about holidays as I just came back from one.
He asked me where I went and I told him and he said "I go there, a few times every month like you do. Maybe next time we have the same time off you and I could meet up?"
I can still picture his expression in my mind - he was smiling (which he rarely does) and his eyes were half-lidded as if he were dreaming. When I encountered him outside of work with his friends he made this same expression and I was with my husband at the time. Then I heard his friends say "she's fine".
Urgh, this is all so weird! My guy friend firmly believes he is just being socially awkward and "clunky" but I told my husband about what he did today and he said he is evidently being quite "creepy".
I have a feeling his parents separated as he only ever talks about his mum and I have bumped into him shopping with her.
I really feel that the best thing I can do at this stage is wait for there to be a company party where he and I can actually talk and I can get to the bottom of what his deal is.