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Ok I need some advice. I have been dating this guy for almost 2 weeks. He lives about 2 hours away, so I can't see him all the time. So far, I have seen him twice: once around his area and once around mine. Each time we meet he seems to push doing sexual stuff. I honestly am not interested in doing that stuff right away. i would rather do fun activities in public and just spend time with him. It seems like this relationship in nothing but sexual right now. I would like to get to know him better, but everytime I push not to do that, he gets this disappointing look.

I'm not sure what I should do. Any suggestions?
 

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Tell him you're not ready and want to know him first. If he can't deal with it and continues to pressure you into doing stuff you're not comfortable with, dump his ***. Someone who would treat you better would be very easy to find.
 

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You're in a long distance relationship (sort of) and you're having serious doubts about it after two weeks. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. I highly doubt it gets better over time.

Is this a friend of yours, or just some guy who asked you out? Do you feel like you have the power to choose a man who treats you right, or like you depend on this person for companionship?
 

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Stick to your guns. If he respects you, then he'll respect your wishes.
 

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There is definitely someone way better out there. I was interested in getting to know a guy a while back, and he just wanted to push sex as well. After seeing him a handful of times, I just clued in that he wasn't actually interested in getting to know me at all. Doesn't matter what guys say, it matters what they DO.

I'm seeing a guy right now (and it's been like six months or so since the other guy, so you just gotta hang in there) and he's the total opposite. He is definitely into sex, but would never dream of pushing something on me I wasn't ready for. There are guys like that, and you should do yourself the favor and realize it's one of those guys you want. Not the pushy sex driven ones. They have no substance. Trust me, you're not going to get to know him because there's nobody home to get to know.

Just my experience. If it were possible you would be getting to know him already, and it would come easier.
 
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