I used to have really really bad SA for as far back as I can remember. And I can actually say now that it's mild, and people don't even know I have it. Some days, I even wonder if I have it at all.
I have recently realized it, because I joined a speed dating site simply to meet new people and share perspectives (not so much even for dating, but simply expanding my social circle) And I've gone and met perfect strangers for coffee. I mean three or four in just a couple of weeks. I told my friend about this and she was absolutely in shock! She said "you NEVER would have done something like that before!" And it's true. I wouldn't even go for coffee with the people I DID know most of the time.
What's more, I was writing up my resume recently, and one of the things I wrote about myself with confidence was that I'm outgoing. I was never outgoing before. Even though I still consider myself largely an introvert, I can safely say I'm an outgoing individual. Especially when it comes to work, I am very positive at work. I used to be the most cynical person you would ever meet, not that you would have ever met me.
In some ways it can feel a little robotic like I have "programmed" myself this way. But when I think about it, I was definitely programmed to be negative and self loathing and terrified of the world in the past. Actually, there is nothing that brings me greater joy than knowing we can in a sense reprogram ourselves to be who we really want to be. It's a really gradual process, but if you've been working hard over the years, you wake up one day and look back and see a magnificent distance which you have traveled to get where you are.
And I see there is still a huge distance to go before I truly am everything I want to be. But I realize I have finally made a dent in my life on the path to getting there.
I really just wanted to share this positive realization with everyone, and I hope that it might cheer someone up, or make them realize they will get where I am someday too. If we trust ourselves, and trust the process, I think we really have nothing to worry about in our lives at all.
Have a lovely day.
I have recently realized it, because I joined a speed dating site simply to meet new people and share perspectives (not so much even for dating, but simply expanding my social circle) And I've gone and met perfect strangers for coffee. I mean three or four in just a couple of weeks. I told my friend about this and she was absolutely in shock! She said "you NEVER would have done something like that before!" And it's true. I wouldn't even go for coffee with the people I DID know most of the time.
What's more, I was writing up my resume recently, and one of the things I wrote about myself with confidence was that I'm outgoing. I was never outgoing before. Even though I still consider myself largely an introvert, I can safely say I'm an outgoing individual. Especially when it comes to work, I am very positive at work. I used to be the most cynical person you would ever meet, not that you would have ever met me.
In some ways it can feel a little robotic like I have "programmed" myself this way. But when I think about it, I was definitely programmed to be negative and self loathing and terrified of the world in the past. Actually, there is nothing that brings me greater joy than knowing we can in a sense reprogram ourselves to be who we really want to be. It's a really gradual process, but if you've been working hard over the years, you wake up one day and look back and see a magnificent distance which you have traveled to get where you are.
And I see there is still a huge distance to go before I truly am everything I want to be. But I realize I have finally made a dent in my life on the path to getting there.
I really just wanted to share this positive realization with everyone, and I hope that it might cheer someone up, or make them realize they will get where I am someday too. If we trust ourselves, and trust the process, I think we really have nothing to worry about in our lives at all.
Have a lovely day.