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I'm afraid of people getting to know me and I don't know how to break this cycle, it goes like this: I don't want to meet people because they will ask questions about me (obvious), but it'll come out like I'm a loser because I don't do anything on the weekends and have NO friends...am I supposed to just make something up? Other than that, I just need to learn how to break the ice and overcome avoidance and I'm golden :)

BTW, how am I supposed to overcome social anxiety if I have nobody to hang out with that'll invite me to anything...I have nothing to do on the weekend and it's not like I can just go someplace alone. This sucks.
 

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i know how you feel. whenever i do go out (and its rare) the people im with will talk about what theyre doing later that night or what they did last weekend or something and ill be thinking "this is the first time ive been with people all week" or "im just gonna go back to my room and sit at the computer after this" so i keep quiet

it makes it hard to relate.

it also is difficult because everyones talking about stuff they did and i have nothing to contribute, so that makes me think im no fun to hang out with because im not talkative
 

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Make something up, it never hurts. BTW alex291 the same thing happens to me....cept I'm talkative when im not anxious (which is rare as well)...I remember I went to a gathering to meet my friends one time, they were talking all this stuff and I didn't know what to say and they kinda ignored me when I talked. Didn't talk the whole night.
 

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Your best bet is to find people who have similar interests on the internet and meet up with them. I would imagine that there are a lot of things to do in Tampa, but I guess it depends on what you make of it when you go out by yourself.
 

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Go to google and look up social events and social networking sites in your area. I just did a search for ones in tampa and there were a couple of results. But you can also look for towns/cities around you - a main city would have more options.

@alex, if you're out with these people socialising and they talk about where they're going afterwards feel free to invite yourself. Just say something like 'I've never been to x, is it easy to get to?' then you can tell by their response whether you're welcome.

Just don't say you're going home cos then you'll never be invited. And if you hang out with more times and do the same thing they will assume you don't want to go out afterwards ie. you're an early to bed kind of person and therefore you'll never get invited.
 
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