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What have you missed out on in life because of your SA? I'm guessing most people will say having a relationship, friends, a job. And that's me too. I also lack independence. I feel younger than most people my age.

I hate that my SA holds me back from going for things. For example, I've really liked someone for awhile now and looking back on it I think he liked me too. But I didn't feel like I could say anything to him about it and he didn't say anything to me because he's equally shy (either that or he just didn't like me). So nothing ever happened and because I knew him through a friend I never really see, I don't know him anymore. Sometimes I'll see him on the street though and I just get this horrible feeling. Horrible because I know something could've happened and I feel like I've blown it. Even if I could be in his life in some way, I feel like I'm not good enough for him. I have horrible self esteem really. I'm working on how I view myself now but it's hard... :|

I dropped out of school so I think I've missed an opportunity there in a way too. I would've stayed until the end if I wasn't struggling with depression and anxiety. Now as a result of not finishing my education, some jobs are impossible for me to get.

What have you missed out on?
 

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I miss a fun filled , friends filled, girlfriends filled youth
Took the words right out of my mouth. Sometimes I feel like I'm just a spectator of life. Watching everyone else do what I wish I was doing.
 

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Sometimes I feel like I'm just a spectator of life. Watching everyone else do what I wish I was doing.
^ This completely. Back when I had really bad depression, I used to imagine myself trapped in a glass case, only everyone else couldn't see me and were just enjoying their lives on the other side.
 

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Sometimes I feel like I'm just a spectator of life. Watching everyone else do what I wish I was doing.
So very true! I have always felt like an 'observer' , watching everyone else move forward through life, whilst I remain hiding on the outskirts...And yes, wishing I could do what 'they' are all doing too...:|
 

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I've missed out on being truly part of the human world and accessing basic areas of society (e.g., jobs). I'm not sure what it would be like and therefore lack a proper sense of what I might be missing.

Sometimes I feel like I'm just a spectator of life. Watching everyone else do what I wish I was doing.
^ This completely. Back when I had really bad depression, I used to imagine myself trapped in a glass case, only everyone else couldn't see me and were just enjoying their lives on the other side.
This reminds me of this painting (image needs to be clicked on to enlarge): http://civetmoon.deviantart.com/art/The-Girl-in-the-Glass-50359400
 

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I've missed out on:
Hanging out with friends/people after school/college at their houses or going into town with them.
Going to friend sleepovers
Dating guys/ talking with guys as a teenager. Most people have had a 'not serious but playful typed boyfriend/girlfriend' when they are 14 -16 years old. I haven't.
Going to nightclubs/parties at 16/19 years of age
Going to my high school prom
 

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I got a place at this really prestigious college but I turned it down. I will probably regret it in 2 years time when I finish college.
 

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It's Woodhouse right?
No. (I have never heard of that place before and if its in North London then I will definitely not have heard of it.)

It was a place called Coopers Company and Coburn. Its one of the few comprehensives that get either nearly 1000 points or higher (can't remember which). The reason why I didn't go was entirely for social reasons.
 

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Never heard of that college as well...

I personally disagree with people who say that certain colleges are better than others (universities - yes, sixth form colleges - no). I think certain colleges are higher scoring because the students who come there are smarter in the first place. I don't believe teaching methods/teachers are better in specific colleges. That's at least judging from my experience.
Yes I agree with you to an extent but this college was a comprehensive meaning, it takes on pupils regardless of ability (it's neither a grammar nor a private school). I think I have read somewhere it is one of England's top comprehensive schools, even more the reason to go.

You may say next that it largely depends on how much effort a person puts into it which I agree but how good a school is as well, helps tonnes.
 

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School. I dropped out of highschool and got a GED. I was really smart, in honors classes and stuff, but whenever I had to do something like a presentation, I just wouldn't do it. So I started failing, then it got to the point where I just hated being around all of those people and I just stopped going. I always had to meet with my counselors so they could figure out what was going wrong with me. I hated talking to them. I was supposed to apply to community college after I got my GED and that still hasn't happened because I'm too scared to go there and sign up. Then I start thinking about classes and panic attacks and I just give up. It sucks. I feel like a failure at life because of it sometimes. Now I'm working a desk job that's okay, but I'm not happy with it. I have to talk on the phone a lot, marketing, sales, etc. (which is horrible). I make decent money, but not enough, so I know I need to go back to school. I feel like I've been trapped in this cycle for 8 years now and it's starting to drive me a little bit crazy.
 

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the main one for me is missing out on making friends.. i prefer being alone so much more than being outside and socialising.. i hate it
 

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I chickened out on a girl who clearly liked me. I was so worried that if I make a move, she might move on to another guy. You can guess the result.
 
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