When in any social situation, do you find it hard to remember things? Like if you are talking to someone you know and you have some common grounds (lets say same music taste), you will only have one or two little quips. You know there is more you could expand on, but you can't remember specific details in order to keep going, which will result in an equally forgettable conversation.:mum I just get so frustrated that I can't remember anything when talking to people. I feel like my brain freezes up and there is nothing ever to talk about.
Anyone else feel like this?
Yes, yes, yes, I can totally relate to this esp the part about your brain freezing up
Example #1: Once I heard my roommate listening to Prodigy and I asked, is that Prodigy, and she replied, yeah, something something and then she said, that's my major used to be in films to make music vids because of Prodigy, and I just said "oh", and the convo was over. If my brain hadn't froze up, instead of saying oh, I would've said, yeah, me too, there are some songs that have made me want to learn animation so I can make music vids......
Example #2: Another time I heard her flipping thru her songs and I asked was that Lady Gaga, she said yeah, I used to listen to her all the time, and with that, my brain froze up and I said "oh." What I would've said if I was a normal ****ing girl, is "Yeah, I know, me too, I used to listen to her all the time, esp, her song, Just Dance, but now I can't stand listening to that song."
So as you can see, I'm a retarded conversationalist. A lot of the times, and this is a HUGE weird recurring issue with me, but for example, there's been a number of times in class where we've been critiquing someone's work, and I never say anything because I'm afraid to but there'll be times that I get a passing thought about their work, and the reason I don't voice it is not because I'm afraid, but because I won't even be conciously aware of the thought until someone says what I was thinking out loud-Like it's even impossible to say to myself, no don't say that in critique because I don't even pay attention to that thought until someone else says it, and I'm like, hey I was thinking that!, why didn't I say it??
It's like there's a 10 second to 1 minute delay in my brain, In a convo, I won't be able to
form a response until like 30seconds later, after I've replayed the convo in my mind. The
idea of the response is there after the person has said their part, but it's locked frozen in my head and
I am not aware of it until I replay the convo. Does that make sense to anyone, how
the raw idea is there but it doesn't surface and become a coherent thought until a minute has gone by and by then I can't respond to the person cuz that'd be weird so it's like a one-sided convo?