[coldmorning]

It's quite possible to have platonic friendships like that. I have a few truly platonic friends who are married women and I don't really know the husband (I am an unmarried male). Granted I haven't met any of them online... it's only been through work or school. Even though I've moved from the area, if I'm ever back I will email some of them and meet up for lunch, etc. It's no big deal and there is nothing nefarious about it. I would not assume his intent is cheating until he actually does something along those lines.

 

[coldmorning]

I agree it sounds dodgy and if I had to make a bet, I'd say it's more likely he's up to something than not. But how is it harmful in meeting up to talk?

The comments about your spouse being your best friend is nice and ideally that is the situation. But reality is that in many marriages that just isn't how it manifests itself. It could be that the guy really wants someone to talk to and finds he can't with his wife (that might be why he doesn't want to invite her). It's also difficult for men to talk to other men about things like this... men aren't supposed to talk about their feelings. We're not supposed to ask for help or admit anything is wrong (that's why we never ask for directions- we never get lost you know). He could get a counselor but what would his wife say when the bill shows up.

Anyway, he's probably a sleaze though so if it bothers you, don't meet up with him. After all that's the only thing men want anyway.