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I'm having a pity part, and my anxiety is through the roof. My first problem, and it's not really a problem, but I'm making it a problem in my head. I'm head over heels over this girl. We've been talking everyday since I met her on a trip last month and she happens to live in my society. Tell her my feelings right? Can't do it. She has a bf of 2.5 years who she will probably marry. He's also a med a student. Guy has a future. While there's me, and here are my bigger problems. I'm broke. This is stupid, but I don't have a lot of friends. So in order to make it feel like I have a life and I'm not a loser go out to the casino. Now I'm living with my mom (who is fine with it, but I'm 26 ffs). Then there is my job. I work for a debt collection agency. This job makes me feel lower then life. I am also a college dropout (though I'm going back in the fall)

I realize the girl is a lost cause, but yet I feel like there is hope still somehow. My real question is in moments like this, when my anxiety is off the chain, my life feels kind of hopeless and lonely, what's the best way to turn it around. I can't make friends due to my pulled back nature, that's probably why I like this girl so much, she's someone!
 

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Things may change. Just keep trying. Who knows if everything will work out between them. And you sound like a great person so don't put yourself down. Your future could be really bright just have faith. And if you feel lonely you still have your family. I'm sure they'd love to help. Just keep smiling :)
 

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The anxiety is kinda like a wave, you can't necessarily fight it but do not let it overwhelm you. That what I try and remember during those type of moments, and try to go do something to "snap" you out of that. Workout, run, video games, etc...

You say have nothing going for you, but I don't think that's fair to say you. You have a job and are getting ready to go back to school. Both of those are big accomplishments.

In regards to being really into that girl, its rough. You have to go along with it until you meet someone else or lose interest. You can't really force yourself to stop liking someone. Just keep handling your own personal business and you will run into a girl who likes you and wants to be with you. Guaranteed.
 

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I'd take it as a very promising sign that she talks to you daily. It may not matter how good her bf looks on paper if she is getting bored.

You can say something like..."look, I'm not looking to interfere in your relationship, but I really like you and just wanted you to know." Sometimes it only takes planting the seed.
 

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Bigbore - thanks! I do have a great family that supports me pretty much no matter what. Can't deny that

Drummer - part of my problem is I've always been told that the right one will come along. I used to have a great gf and a lot of friends, years ago. When my gf and I broke up I sort of fell into a funk. There has been girls since then, but nothing serious. Hopefully you are right though.. One day...

Kyle/Dark - honestly feel like her talking to me everyday is just her being a nice person. I usually initiate the conversation by texting her or whatever. Sometimes she does, but it's me most of the time. In all likelihood she probably has no idea I like her at all. I doubt she's bored with her bf. she was telling me how excited she was to see him this weekend back home (it's long distance to boot, he went to medical school not here). I could of course tell her how I feel but I think it's not worth it. If she rejects me, which she probably will, then it gets awkward. I'd rather keep her as a friend then nothing at all. Of course I'll probably be miserable.
 
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