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Life passing us by?

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Does anyone ever get that dreadful feeling that we are not living life to the fullest? Everywhere I look, my friends are going about their lives with no worries in the world, at least on the outside.

Friends around me are getting into serious relationships with their futures in mind. I have been stuck alone for the whole of my life.

Friends around me are going about their jobs and progressing through their careers. I am only about to finish my studies and even when I am complete, I don't think I will be able to cope with pressures of society and be successful.

Friends around me are out doing adventurous things. I am confined to my room doing nothing exciting, watching the years of my life in which I am supposed to be having fun dissapear.

Sometimes I just wish I could have just a little bit of what everyone around me has, but it seems so far out of reach...
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This is how i feel. I can't believe how fast this year has flown by already. I'm 30 and i feel that my life is already over, i mean when i was in my twenties i felt like i had time to change, by the speed the past ten years has gone i will be 40 before i know it.

I find myself yearning to have fun, but the older i get the more responsibilites i feel i have like around the house i mean i feel guilty living with my parents and not doing chores. Most people have already had their fun by the time they are in their 30's so tehy don't mind settling down to a quiet life but i feel i am wasting more and more of my time just working and doing boring stuff.
yea and its like there is nothing i can do about it. I tried to change but it just does not happen i guess i will just let go and accept it.
Sooner or later, everyone feels like life has passed them by - even the ones who have gone off on exciting "adventures" and seem to have it all. Don't worry about trying to measure up to those people; just find your own pleasures wherever you can.
I know the feeling. My senior year feels like it was yesterday, but it's been a few years back. Feels like 2008 was yesterday. Feels like I was with my old girlfriend yesterday. I have to say that 2011 has probably been the fastest year of my life. I can't believe it's already the middle of August. Where has the time gone?
Sooner or later, everyone feels like life has passed them by
Yes, but they can at least look back and say they had a hell of a run.

I will look back and be so bitter about blowing it. Had money, no major deformities, wasn't a total idiot (except socially). BLEW the damn thing. Blew the game and lost big. I don't know how I'm going to handle the bitterness. It's already setting in.

28 and never lived. Saved money for nothing. Work a job for nothing. Just to perpetuate a miserable life by feeding it fast food garbage off the Wendy's value menu. Horrendous.

What kills me is that millions of people without a penny to their name are having more fun than I am. No question in my mind about that. Some people don't even care about money. It sure as hell isn't doing me any good. I might as well pour poison on a 50 dollar bill and eat it.
Every year seems to go by quicker than the last. At least I am not 30...yet. Life needs a reset button.
I feel like that all the time. It's the main thing keeping me depressed.
Of course it's passing us by. I myself don't care though, I can't wait to get old. :I
I feel like that a bit, but i'm determined to do something about it.
i feel like i ve done nothing with my life too.and now that i'm sick it s making me realise that i might not be here in 5 yrs time.i really have to get over my SA and do something before i s so upsetting to see others moving on with their life questioning why u are not doing the same,and you are just stuck there beacause of your anxiety.
Definitely Life is passing me by, the gale force winds it is causing as it does just about knock me off my feet. I gasp for breath as I try to keep up and all I get are pieces of garbage kicked up by Life pelting me in the face. Finally I collapse in a heap screaming for Life to come back as it roars over the horizon. I am alone and devastated.
I've been depressed for 10+ years now because of my SA. I've found I can cope if I take it one day at a time, but that means I don't have any long term goals.

The days and months and years are just flying past, and nothing has changed for those 10 years...

I need to break this cycle.

I despair that I have lost so much of my life, parts that I can never get back. I keep saying to myself that I'm going to start living, but then I just feel hopeless and fall apart.
I just don't want to grow up... Still have childish interests, never got into drinking, drugs, or clubbing. Most, if not all, of my friends have moved into to bigger, more adult lifestyles.

I'm the kind of guy that's going to be married to his job, unfortunately.
My thoughts exactly. I so wish I'd been diagnosed as a teen. I might have wasted less time. As it is I just turned 29 and only just this year started really looking into what was wrong with me.

If I'd been diagnosed at 12 I would have had 17 years to work with it. I would be doing the things I wish I could do.

But of course I can only look forward. At least I'm a positive thinker. I believe things will get better. If they don't. I don't see the point. I've still got time for the things I want to do in life.
2011 definitely seems like the fastest year yet. I'm 21 but I feel like it's too late for me to change since I've been this way my whole life. I would rather die than continue this lonely and meaningless life for another 60 years or something.
Yes, it feels like I am existing but not living. Like a movie I am just watching my life go by...
This is exactly as I feel. I am not ambitious enough for my own dreams. Everyone around me has had great life experiences and I've had none.
I felt sad just reading the title, but its true for most of us i'd prefair going out with friends then being a shut-in for my life.
I need to break this cycle.

I despair that I have lost so much of my life, parts that I can never get back. I keep saying to myself that I'm going to start living, but then I just feel hopeless and fall apart.
^This. I want to change while I'm still young, but it just seems impossible...
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