so whats peopls opinion of this? is it a line that you just don't cross? dealing with money has a whole set of rules on its own right?
That's exactly right. Give it out, but don't expect to see it back. The true friends would pay you back anyway, without having to be hassled over it.I think it's OK, as long as you're prepared not to get any of it back and not to feel resentful about it. So I think it's probably best to give the money and forget about it. But I doubt that I personally would be able to do that and maintain the same attitude to a friend.
I saw this happen with a former coworker. A guy who was a former employee of the company we worked at (he was no longer able to hold down a job because he had a drink problem) would come in occasionally to visit her. On each occasion, he would give her a little sob story, and she would end up giving him some money. She was aware that she wouldn't get the money back, and she knew that the money was the only reason he came to see her, but she felt sorry for him.the thing about loaning money is that that person will keep on asking for another loan until you say no