[Brice]

Oh, man! I screwed up big time. The girl I'm so deeply in love with told me on Saturday that she might be in love with someone else. And she knew I had a problem with cutting and drugs (a few visits to psych wards, and rehab and such). She told me not to "do anything stupid."

That upset me. ***I did self-harm***

I know it wasn't smart but it's all I could think to do. It freaked the hell out of her. Now she's really pissed off and scared. She's still talking to me, and we've been texting. She said she still loves me, but she's not sure what to do or how to feel about this. I'm scared to death I'm gonna lose her. I just can't, I really think she's the one. What can I do to fix this?

 

[Anxiety75]

If you are currently cutting yourself you need to continue seeing a counselor or a psychiatrist. I think by your cutting yourself you may be upsetting your gf. Please talk to a professional asap. I know you said you have been in and out.
I cannot give you relationship advice or medical advice other than you should get treatment for the cutting.

 

[Iced Soul]

No one can give you real medical or relationship advice on here, but I will tell you that it's likely your gf is getting too overwhelmed with the cutting and drugs and can't deal with it anymore. Seeing someone you love doing something to harm themselves or risking their health can be really hard to live with.
Obviously you love her and I'm sure that means a lot to her and probably tearing her up inside because I'm sure she loves you. I'm not sure what you can do to fix this, but you should worry more about getting yourself better. When you're better, then you can show her you've gotten better and that you care about yourself, which in turn means you care for her to get yourself better, and maybe it could work out from there, but you need to help yourself first.

 

[millenniumman75]

Brice,

You should talk to a doctor ASAP. This behavior was quite impulsive and in desparation - NEVER a good combination.

I am afraid there is another issue here - fear. The relationship you are referring to is not healthy for her or you - moreso you. You need time to develop yourself and your talents/identity. I am afraid the best thing you can do is let her go. I am sorry to have to tell you this.

 

[Wirt]

Oh, man! I screwed up big time. The girl I'm so deeply in love with told me on Saturday that she might be in love with someone else. And she knew I had a problem with cutting and drugs (a few visits to psych wards, and rehab and such). She told me not to "do anything stupid." That upset me so I thought I'd show her. *I did self-harm.* I know it wasn't smart but it's all I could think to do. It freaked the hell out of her. Now she's really pissed off and scared. She's still talking to me, and we've been texting. She said she still loves me, but she's not sure what to do or how to feel about this. I'm scared to death I'm gonna lose her. I just can't, I really think she's the one. What can I do to fix this?

everyones already mentioned things about the cutting so ill skip that

but think of the position your putting her in. She doesnt want you to do anything stupid because if you do do something bad to yourself, shell blame herself (she probably already blames herself for telling you how she felt and you sending her the picture).

if you actually loved her you wouldnt put her in a spot like that

 

[nubly]

sorry to be a dick about this but youre 19. young love is just puppy love these days. if shes fallen for someone else then she didnt fully love you

 

[Madison_Rose]

Brice,

You should talk to a doctor ASAP. This behavior was quite impulsive and in desparation - NEVER a good combination.

I am afraid there is another issue here - fear. The relationship you are referring to is not healthy for her or you - moreso you. You need time to develop yourself and your talents/identity. I am afraid the best thing you can do is let her go. I am sorry to have to tell you this.

^He's right.

Sorry you're feeling so bad, Brice. Many, if not most people have lost their girlfriend/boyfriend, who they loved. They survived, and went on to love again. I know it feels like the end of the world now, but these awful feelings do fade in time. When I was 21, I broke up with my partner. We'd lived together for three years, he was my first love, and I thought nobody would ever love me again. I was wrong! I cried myself to sleep for months, but 6 months later I was feeling a lot happier. Eighteen months later I was in love again! I've been there and survived; you can too.

It was pretty inconsiderate of your gf to tell you that she "might be in love with someone else." She should have sorted her feelings out and either forgotten about the other guy and committed to you, or ended things with you, IMO. It was cruel to make you so uncertain and insecure - at least if she said "I'm sorry, but it's over" you'd know where you stood. I'm not saying she's a bad person, but I think she's handled this badly.

I hope you feel better soon, I'm sure you will.