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Is this a problem for anyone else here?
Does everyone here know about temperament? It's something you're born with that influences how you react emotionally to situations and how you approach people. I've concluded that I have a slot-to-warm-up temperament based on what I've read.
And it frustrates the hell out of me that nobody understands it. Some people make friends very easily and know everybody in their school or workplace. I am not one of those people. When I'm forced to do group work, I barely interact with anybody because I am not comfortable with these people. Everyone seems to expect that I'll get comfortable in a few minutes, but it doesn't work like that for me. It can takes days, weeks, even months for me to get comfortable enough with someone to interact with them more, and depending on the person, that sometimes never happens. Even if it does happen, most of the time, it's because that person engaged me first.
That's one reason why I stay away from people. I feel like it would frustrate them so much having to put up with someone like me who can't get comfortable right away. It's just how I am and most people don't seem to get it. Even in high school I had teachers saying they were going to force me to interact more by putting me in groups. It doesn't work like that.
Does everyone here know about temperament? It's something you're born with that influences how you react emotionally to situations and how you approach people. I've concluded that I have a slot-to-warm-up temperament based on what I've read.
And it frustrates the hell out of me that nobody understands it. Some people make friends very easily and know everybody in their school or workplace. I am not one of those people. When I'm forced to do group work, I barely interact with anybody because I am not comfortable with these people. Everyone seems to expect that I'll get comfortable in a few minutes, but it doesn't work like that for me. It can takes days, weeks, even months for me to get comfortable enough with someone to interact with them more, and depending on the person, that sometimes never happens. Even if it does happen, most of the time, it's because that person engaged me first.
That's one reason why I stay away from people. I feel like it would frustrate them so much having to put up with someone like me who can't get comfortable right away. It's just how I am and most people don't seem to get it. Even in high school I had teachers saying they were going to force me to interact more by putting me in groups. It doesn't work like that.