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I have noticed after staying indoors alot SA is more intense. I dont know why this is but is is quite notable. Perhaps this is called cabin fever. When winter months keeps an individual indoors for long periods of time. To keep SA at a minimum I need to force myself to socialize each day.

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Yeah I know what you mean, it's like you have to maintain this constant socialisation no matter how hard it is, or you just fall off the wagon completely >.< and then have to start completely from scratch, like I'm doing now.

It's almost like at the beginning of every day my emotional responses are reset, then as I go through the day I get more comfortable with people but then the next day it's a little bit harder and I have to gain that confidence again. And the longer the time is left between each social interaction the harder it is, wish it wasn't that way. :/
 

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Agree with OP the more i go out the more better i feel about myself and the better my anxiety gets.
 

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Yeah I think especially if you are alone all the time, you spend too much time with your own thoughts and those can easily spiral into more negative thoughts and it just makes you feel worse. Also by isolating yourself, you're also avoiding what you're afraid of so that only intensifies the fear... as bad as it feels to put yourself in social situations, the more you practice them, the better you'll get... hardest part is always the first step.
 

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Exactly! The difficult thing is to keep this regime going on, which is easy for
social people but painful for the anxiety-ridden so there's no incentive there.

That's why it's important to keep track of your progress in some way, so that
you'll be motivated and focused (btw I should do that too!)

Also you should write this note and put it somewhere you can see it everyday:
"I shall not compare myself to others; only to my previous self"
 

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Just to do something different. A change of scenery, maybe. It don't have to be anything big. I can't remember where I heard it, but someone said something like "dare to see something differently". And I think they were talking about ordinary everyday things. I believe that this really does help.
 

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I just learned this too. I was making progress, starting to feel slightly more relaxed on campus before the winter break and then on the first day back, even though I wasn't going to class (I always skip the first week), I felt very anxious, panicky and paranoid, like how I was in the beginning.
 

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I unfortunately have no opportunities to get out and socialize in order to get used to it or keep from getting even more isolated...isolation is pretty much my standard. :sigh I'm used to it, though I imagine it doesn't help me much. There aren't any alternatives available for me here, living out in the country in an isolated area with no means of transport, no places to go, and nobody to go anywhere with.

Yeah I know what you mean, it's like you have to maintain this constant socialisation no matter how hard it is, or you just fall off the wagon completely >.< and then have to start completely from scratch, like I'm doing now.

It's almost like at the beginning of every day my emotional responses are reset, then as I go through the day I get more comfortable with people but then the next day it's a little bit harder and I have to gain that confidence again. And the longer the time is left between each social interaction the harder it is, wish it wasn't that way. :/
I'm glad you described this...I thought maybe it was just me. This is why exposure as a means of getting over or minimizing SA is so frustrating to me...it might help me temporarily, but the next time a situation arises, it's like I have to start summoning courage from scratch! None of that confidence gained ever lasts or transfers to future situations. Like with telephones, or replying to e-mails, it doesn't matter how many times I answer them, it never gets easier. A few small things get easier for me with repetition, but the big things never do. It's so frustrating. :sigh
 

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Thats what happening to me. But even in the summer time, it still doesnt make my SA any better because I just dont have any friends to hang out with. But i try to go out as much as I can though because being stuck at home just makes the SA worse.
 

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I try to keep social at a minimum I don't wanna be completely shut down, and also, I have some friends that push me alot to come out, so it helps.

yet they are doing it alot more often and I'm starting to go mad...
 

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isolating creates general anxiety which causes social anxiety to be worst, it's a vicious cycle.
 

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yep its true i notice if im not going outside and being amongst just some people even whilst going shopping or just for a stroll where ever or even seeing people i feel terribly anxious like ive alienated myself off from society, but what do you do when you have no friends and suffered from social anxiety, huh people say go and mix yourself with them if it was that easier said then done, like they know what if feels like to be a s.a sufferer
 

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I read the thread title and the first thing that came to mind was a part of S&G's song Sound of Silence.
Silence like a cancer grows.
I've always thought of SA and anthropophobia as a sort of parasite. It's afraid of people so it hides in us and transfers its fear to us. Being sociable should make it realise that we are unsuitable hosts, forcing it to leave. I have had some minor success with this.

That probably sounded stupid, but I like to over-think things and come up with my own explanation.
 
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