[aloss4words]

It is ironic that worrying about performing badly in a social situation actually causes you to perform badly in a social situation. I don't think people really like people who make it obvious that they are very worried about what others think.

 

[burningdesire888]

yea i've noticed that a lot too. we achieve a lot of things we don't actually want. SA is one huge example of that.

 

[Banzai]

Yes. Yes it is.
I want to become more close to my "friends" but at the same time, hold them at arm's length.
I want to have a conversation but at the same time, I like silence as well.

 

[SourD]

Huh. never thought of it like that. Wow.That sucks

 

[marenubium87]

The stock market works the same way. Stocks go up because people think they will go up, and thus buy, etc...

 

[when will we be new skin]

Yep. If we completely disregarded all of our worries then we wouldn't be anxious at all. I mean the craziest people are often the happiest.

 

[aloss4words]

Of course getting rid of that anxiety is not as easy as realizing how unhelpful it is...