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If someone invites me to something where they will have a large number of their friends and I don't really want to go, is it rude to say, "okay, I might do that", and then not do it?
 

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If someone invites me to something where they will have a large number of their friends and I don't really want to go, is it rude to say, "okay, I might do that", and then not do it?
Nope. You said "might" which encompasses "won't". Not rude in the slightest.
 

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I think it's better to give them a definite answer. If you've told them that and don't plan on attending then at least send them an sms or a call to let them know.
 

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If someone invites me to something where they will have a large number of their friends and I don't really want to go, is it rude to say, "okay, I might do that", and then not do it?
Could say, "I might if I feel up it".
 

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While I don't think it's rude in the slightest, because it makes clear that you might do it, but you also might not, it's best, in my opinion, to just say something like 'If I feel up to it, sure, but if not, I'll pass this time.'
 

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If someone invites me to something where they will have a large number of their friends and I don't really want to go, is it rude to say, "okay, I might do that", and then not do it?
No, because "might" gives the possibility of a yes or no outcome.
 

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It wasn't rude, but if you don't have intentions of going, it would be better to give it a more negative slant. I mean:

"ok, I might do that" - leans towards yes.

"I'm not sure about that, we'll see." - leans towards no.
 

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Just tell them you're a maybe and pretend you're doing something else.

Maybe you should try going anyway and use it as an opportunetly to tackle your SA!?
 

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I think it's only rude if they are doing something which requires your friend to know a specific number of people that will attend beforehand if he's doing something like a dinner outing for example.
 

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why not say the truth, you might go but if you don't know the people you will feel a little uncomfortable. but if i were you I would just go.
 

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Always leave yourself an 'out'.

I often agree to things on an 'up' day, and then stress about it as the day approaches and wish I hadn't.

Leave yourself the option either way as you never know how you are going to feel on the day.

Try to go to some stuff, otherwise people will stop inviting you altogether.

Good luck!
 
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