[rusalka]

Update!

He's back in my life after a 3 month hiatus in which I've made new friends and when my social life has skyrocketed. I know we're in love but we have not said it yet. We won't do anything until I'm legally separated at least, though. I feel like I've made a very good friend, and someone to whom there is a special emotional connection and extreme physical attraction. OMG

 

[aviator99]

Yeah I think what you mentioned is totally fine, if he's genuinely interested he'll be patient. The only risk you run is the cost of time, its possible his interest can fade over time (or someone else will cross his path). Doesnt mean it will, just saying its possible.

If its of any condolence i'm going through a similar situation myself, i'd love to go out with this girl but we're just not on the same page in our lives, and wont be until next year when she finishes school. Otherwise, its just a mess right now in many ways. I have no problem waiting and I already have been waiting months and months, the feelings never died and my interest is still at full capacity. Though, I will say, its possible that in the next year some other girl may cross my path and swoon me in her direction. Its hard to imagine that i'd lose the feelings I have for -this- girl, BUT, I dont know what -other- girls are out there that may cause me to lose interest in this one. I know between us we'd still be friends, but will I lose that relationship interest? Maybe...at this point its easy to say I doubt it, but you just dont know who's out there.

So thats all i'd have to say, what you're doing is totally fine, but just remember that the longer time goes on the greater the likelihood that he (or even you) could be steered away towards another person of interest.