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Is there a place in the workforce for the quiet employee?

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I hear my parents and even my coworkers in the past say that social skills are a must, and I should at least try to socialize with coworkers. The coworkers I've cared to befriend are the ones where I've liked their personality and had common interests. But if I talk to them and discover we don't, then I just don't see the point.

In a fast food job I probably should've made more of an effort as I was surrounded by people my age. Now I'm in a "real job" and there is no one near me that I even care to socialize with. There are 2 guys my age in the break room that I'll try to have causal conversation with because they seem nice. The other 2 guys who sit near me around my age I cannot stand, especially the one who I actually did try to talk to during down time. They are calling the architects idiots all the time, complaining a lot, kind of know it alls. My supervisor is the same way and I don't think he likes me, though to be fair, my work ethic could use a lot of improvement. Everyone else is far older than me.

I recently got a comment that I should be more engaged which is true in some ways. I need to ask for help more instead of messing around and experimenting with the program on company time. I usually just stay quiet unless I run into someone in the break room where I will ask politely about their day. I know I have an attitude problem, but I don't like these people. I don't like hearing them constantly talk about how our clients are idiots and complain about the revisions they make. That's what being a designer is. Seems the quiet employee that just wants to be there for their time and then go home is seen as a problem, even though we don't bother anyone. What are your alls experiences with being the quiet one? Is there a place where this is seen as neutral or even good?

I also think my slight shyness is costing me job interviews. I am trying to hard to get out of this job (not hard enough though) and I usually make it to the second interview, then will never hear back
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I really hope there is somewhere for us quiet employees. There are times I wish I socialized with fellow employees but didn't, usually it'll make the shift go by faster because it breaks up the quiet moments. It's just difficult to find time to socialize and even more difficult to find people that I actually want to socialize with. I'm looking into research positions as a career because I honestly just want to be in a lab, do my work, and go home/have time to myself. But talking with someone in that field they told me that it's all about the connections you make with people, I'm not looking forward to it but it's looking like I may have to just force myself through it.

Best of luck to you with the job interviews, hope it all works out and you find a place you enjoy (or at least can tolerate) working at.
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