[Saqq]

Hi :afr -- (ok not really... kind of)

I was just wondering if anyone has moved out, and how it went. I think one of the main problems I have is I care too much what my parents/brother think -- therefore I do nothing... ever. Anytime I would go out to the store, it would be like where are you going, how long are you going to be, etc, and it just keeps building up.

I'm thinking moving out might be a step in the right direction (plus I wouldn't have an hour long drive to work each way) -- one problem I see myself having is I don't want to become a recluse. I'm 25, so is that kind of old for roommates? I don't know really.

I have no clue on the steps of accomplishing this.

 

[shyvr6]

I think it would be a good step. It will give you independence and you won't have to hear all the nagging that your family gives you. Usually, you'll want to look around for apts or a house in your price range first, and then narrow them down by location and availability. It's pretty normal to have a roommate at your age. If you want to go that route, then look for ads with people wanting one or put an ad out yourself saying that you're looking for one.

 

[Saqq]

k thanks, ya i did see a bunch of ads near my work that easily affordable (ahh the joys of not having anything to spend money on/buy tings )

since my work is right near a big university, theres a ton of what seem like "party" houses (5-6 students/young professionals) -- hmm

k thanks anyone else have any experiances with moving out and how it affected you good and/or bad

 

[Cicero]

I had my own apartment for a month, and it was a good experience. I'm looking forward to moving out again someday, although I don't have the money right now.

One thing though: if you didn't have any roommates or anyone to hang out with, I could see it becoming very lonely. Obviously if you moved into one of those "party" houses, that wouldn't be a problem. (Although other problems might arise. )

 

[Indy]

25's definitely not too old for roommates.

Good luck. :yes

 

[yellowpaper]

I have a 19 year old friend who's rm is like 50 =). 25 is definitely not too old. I know someone who's 19, her bf is 26, and they always live with a few 20-somethings.

I'm looking forward to moving out someday, and not having to feel judged on every single action that I take or thing that I do differently.

 

[Andrew1980]

I wanted to move out as soon as I was established at university. I did that and moved out for a year but had to move back in due to a clash of timetables between work and study. When I am living with my parents I kind of feel like a child again. I lose all of my motivation to do anything.

When I was living out of home I was much more active and enjoyed all kinds of emotions and just the feeling of starting my own life. I joined a soccer team again after many years of not playing. Things weren't going too badly. Now that I am back at home I don't feel like I am living at all.

 

[Neptunus]

Yes, if you can do it, by all means! If you're an adult, and you live under your parents roof, you'll always be "child"... Liberate yourself so you can grow.

 

[stewbert]

Saqq, I'm going through the same thing right now. I'm also 25 and still living under my parents roof. If you'd told me at 16 that I'd still be at home in my mid twenties, I would have said you were crazy; I couldn't wait to get out on my own. Now I'm scared to death. Not so much of living alone, but of the actual process of moving away. I want to move out of state, but don't know how to go about lining up a job, apartment, etc. When I think about all that's involved, my anxiety goes through the roof. :afr

And I definitely relate to the whole caring too much about your families' opinion thing. I keep thinking of all the new things I might try if I didn't have them looking over my shoulder.

 

[DeeperUnderstanding]

Moving out definitely helps with your self confidence and assurance. I lived on my own for two years; sadly, I'm back at home now after not being able to afford my apartment anymore, and being unable to find a job. I hope I'll be able to move out again soon.

 

[sanspants08]

Moving out felt necessary for me. I've been gone since...18, then 22...I think. Anyway, I'm 31 and share a 3-bedroom house with a roommate. He has a recording studio in the living room and I have an art studio in the third bedroom. We've agreed to split the bills unless either of us gets married.

Living with someone is really good for me. Keeps me from being too lonely, even though we don't talk very much.

Having said that, I've had some other roommates who didn't pay the bills, and those were really difficult situations. So finding someone trustworth is necessary if you're going to go the roommate route.

If you don't know anyone you could live with, you can try roommates.com. Some of my friends had good luck with that site.

 

[sparkationsgirl]

I'm 24 and I'm dying to Move out! I hate my whole family. I can't stand my mother. She's way too overprotective and dependent on me for a lot of things. She expects me to live with her forever, honestly. She cried and begged me not to move out when I suggested moving out.

My sisters are always making fun of me for stupid things, like the clothes I wear and other things. "why are you doing that", "you're so stupid for doing that", blah blah blah It's very immature, and I'm tired of their b.s.

Only problem is, I can't work technically because of a health problem that requires me to urinate every 20 min. What employer is going to hire someone like that??

 

[IHeartSteveMcQueen]

moving out is good idea, sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone.

 

[IcedOver]

You should move out. I moved out at 22 and got an efficiency (one room/bath/kitchen, no bedroom) apartment. My parents helped me out financially and perhaps yours can do the same if it's possible. I'm sure if they knew that it would benefit your life to be independent, they wouldn't have a problem.