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I think it's possible to be born with a tendency that favors developing social anxiety. But to simply be born with it and that's it...I dunno.
 

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I think it is possible to be born with a genetic predisposition towards getting SA, but that environment has a large influence on the development, especially with relationships with your parents, your upbringing, and your experiences in life.
 

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i remember when i was younger (like 5-8 years old) i never really made much effort to make friends. i would go out and play by myself with it never really entering my mind to play and socialize with other kids. its only when i got a little older that i started to notice that that behavior isn't normal, and so sa is born.
hear hear!
 

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Yes I believe you are born predisposed to it, and then something may trigger it to worsen. As was the case with me.
 

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In my case, I was never socialized as a child. It was always just my family and I and my siblings were either much older or resented me, so they never played with me. My mom and dad were too busy with other things to bother with me so I played alone. My mother had SA and always told me things such as "never talk about yourself to people b/c no one cares".

So, long story short, I think my SA was a learned behavior.
 

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No, i don't believe it is. I think that some babies are quieter than others, for instance my mum always mentions how quiet and serene i was as a baby, apparently i almost never cried and was always content. In contrast my sister who's older than me was a very needy baby, always crying for attention and never still. So i believe that babies do have different personalities but anxiety is a different thing alltogether. Anxiety is from a result of bad experiences in our case social situations with people. I also believe that it depends a lot on the parenting a child is given. Every child learns from his/hers parent, so if a child has had a poor start in life then the child will grow up with the beliefs they have learnt.
 

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yes. i do believe it is possible. you are basically part of your mom and dads genes. you get either your dads or moms eyes or a combination of both. you get you moms or dads nose..etc. if your dad was good at something it's a very high probability one of his kids will get his talent. i can use myself as an example. my dad has always liked to fix stuff ever since he was little. he also likes to collect stuff like a pack rat. guess what i was doing when i was a little kid? yup, i was building kites, sling shots, boats, bow and arrows..etc... i was collecting frogs (from back yard), fish (when i went fishing) etc.. this started happening ever since i started walking. at present time i like to work with my hands and collect stuff. my brother didn't do any of this stuff....he was/is more of a clown. so if these genes/traits can get passed along, why wouldnt i believe that SAD cannot get passed along. i believe you can be born with the SA genes, but how you are raised determines if your SA will be small or severe. having said that, i also believe SA can be passed along. if someone with out SA hangs around with one who does, long enough, that person will get SA. but that's for another thread.

right now i can over come SA, but it will be still in me way back in the closet (genes). if i was to let it get the best of me again, it would make me isolate myself again and take control of my life again. i would doubt it though because when i conquer SA i will know then what to avoid to make it stay away :clap
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I'm no doctor, but here are my thoughts. My mom has social anxiety, and I didn't grow up w/ her, so it seems clear to me that I inherited it. I also believe that I might have been able to overcome it or at least cope w/ it better if my upbringing had been different. I was raised by my grandparents, and my grandfather is a very intimidating person -very critical and quick to call someone stupid, and also quick to yell. So I think that I inherited the anxiety, but that it was fed by the environment in which I grew up.
 

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Absolutely yes! I think that some people have a very strong genetic predisposition towards social anxiety and will have the condition no matter what is done. However, I don't think that this resigns that person to a dull and drab existence. It's effects in a person's life can be minimized, although it will take a lot of work.
 

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im certain SA can be genetic in some cases but im also certain it can be 100% cued.

usually gentics ae hard to change , for example how are you gonna change pele or maradonna into poor footy players ? you cant cos geneticaly they were born different

but its different with SA as it i taken on genetically in a mental way. SA is a beleif system and the time we are at in history it is possible to change these things
 

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well i was shy fromt he day i was born. is that not proof ?
How do you know you were shy? Were you consiously aware of it? How can you place an appearence of shyness down to SA when at age one you have no concept of socialising and can barely recognise faces?
 

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UKPhonbe - nobody knows what a baby feels or is thinking. but once it starts walking and talking, traitsd start to show. you can't see the air but you know it's there by feel and by how it can have an affect on objects. so what do you believe?

consider the following: some researchers did this test with baby pigs, farmed raised. they put random pigs in a big container half full of water (or half empty :) ) with a clear platform in the middle about an inch under the water. they put random baby pigs in the bucket. some baby pigs didn't have any problem at all finding the platform and climbing on it. while others panicked and swam like crazy around the container. they would even bump into the platform but they would pass it. the sight of looking at those troubling pigs made you feel sorry for them. at any rate, they concluded that those pigs were born lacking the ability to handle/cope stress or had psychological stress. psychological stress is some what related to psychological disorders like SA. if baby pigs can be born with high levels of stress why not with SA?

i saw another tv show about this scientists doing studies on gorillas. the scientists once noticed this baby gorilla not playing with the other baby gorillas. the scientist thought that it might be sick so they did some test on it but determined that it was healthy. the baby gorilla got older and was still doing the same thing until one day it went off and never came back. it was found dead by itself the next day.

so either the troubling baby pigs developed high stress after they were born or they were born with it.

and the gorilla either was alienated by it's family or it was born with some kind of disorder.

so there are two possibility: 1) one is born with it 2) one gets it by how one is raised.

yara..yara..i can keep on going but i think i got my point across. i'm not trying to change anyones way of thinking...that is how i see it. but one thing for sure there are ways to over come it.

i'm open to any other suggestions.
 
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