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I hope someone here will understand what is troubling me: When I first moved into my own home my neighbours were kind and considerate and life was good. (I spent most of my spare time fixing the place up, I became attached to my surroundings and enjoyed my own company) - but then, after many years, the neighbours decided to move elsewhere. Since the new occupants arrived I have gradually been worn down by their selfishness - banging doors and uncontrolled dog yapping at any time of day or night has turned me into a nervous wreck. When I decided that enough was enough and challenged them they indicated that they had no intention to modify their behaviour and the situation worsened. I have always been passive and slow to anger but now I am beginning to behave like a caged animal. I attempt to monitor and predict their movements to prepare myself for the noise but this does not work. My doctor prescribed anti-depressants but this had no effect on my condition. My heightened vigilance and anticipation of the noisy disturbances has increased to such a level that normal life is now impossible. I stay up very late with little sleep so I am less likely to be woken. My resentment grows. My own home is no longer a place of refuge but a place of torture. I was referred to a specialist who diagnosed 'misophonia' with no known cure. My anxiety has become so intense that my life is almost pure misery. The struggle between 'fight or flight' reaction continues to rage within me. I am sure I am not the only person to have become so screwed up by such a problem. My doctor's advice is to move house but I am determined not to be driven out of my own home.
 

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Life is short.

If you can do it, move. I would.

If not, look into ways to make your inside space quieter. Insulation, storm windows and doors. Maybe get a white noise machine...

I've gotten into it with neighbors before, & as you said... It made things worse. My brother punched an ******* neighbor in the nose. He had to pay fines, & take anger management classes... Kinda takes the pleasure out of the punch.

That's all I've got. Good luck, I hope the situation gets better somehow.
 

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I would do what dismiss says and get a white noise machine.. I live in an apt and last year my downstairs neighbors would blast their music. Not all the time just on the weekend while they cleaned I think. It got to the point if I heard just the vibration of music it would aggravate the heck out of me, I would just focus on it and my blood pressure would rise.. I didn't get a white noise machine but a humidifier, kind of the same, noise wise.
 

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Welcome, Alpine! :)
 

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Yes, its you.
Thanks Mik. I probably set myself up for your reply with a title like that. Your remark is fairly typical of someone who perhaps has more in common with my new neighbours than the majority of the members of this forum. I don't think I will be visiting this site for 'support' with posts like yours. To the others, who tried to help and actually offered some form of advice, I wish you luck and hope you never feel the need to unsubscribe quiet so soon after joining.
 

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Hey Alpine welcome. :hyper
 

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Thanks Mik. I probably set myself up for your reply with a title like that. Your remark is fairly typical of someone who perhaps has more in common with my new neighbours than the majority of the members of this forum. I don't think I will be visiting this site for 'support' with posts like yours. To the others, who tried to help and actually offered some form of advice, I wish you luck and hope you never feel the need to unsubscribe quiet so soon after joining.
Lol so your neighbors run succesful corporations? I run over 5 bussinesses. I spend 80 hours plus working... I dont even have time to be home so I can guarantee you I have nothing in common with your neighbors. Thats why I live in a upscale neighborhood and own a 30 acre ranch so that I don't deal with anything like that. Thats life buddy, find a way to deal with it.
 
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