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I used to, and at times still do but to a much lesser extent. It just got to be too exhausting worrying all the time about other people and their perceptions. So I think I went in the opposite direction and learned to become less interested in what people thought and more interested in what I thought. Its hard though when what others think impacts what you think of yourself.
I used to sit in a restaurant and feel like if I had a panic attack it would upset other people and how horrible would that be. Then I thought, with all the crazy things people do to other people in the world, having a panic attack in the midst of other people who may have had one at one point in their life seemed small in comparison.
I think it's a matter of keeping things in perspective. I still do really hate making big mistakes however. I ruined a big project at work this week by not saving my work and am beating myself up over it because the consequences are greater.
I used to, and at times still do but to a much lesser extent. It just got to be too exhausting worrying all the time about other people and their perceptions. So I think I went in the opposite direction and learned to become less interested in what people thought and more interested in what I thought. Its hard though when what others think impacts what you think of yourself.
I used to sit in a restaurant and feel like if I had a panic attack it would upset other people and how horrible would that be. Then I thought, with all the crazy things people do to other people in the world, having a panic attack in the midst of other people who may have had one at one point in their life seemed small in comparison.
I think it's a matter of keeping things in perspective. I still do really hate making big mistakes however. I ruined a big project at work this week by not saving my work and am beating myself up over it because the consequences are greater.
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Ya I can definitely agree with that. Everyone's perceptions are different.
Yah, and their perceptions change often. So being in favor one day isn't really a guarantee. My ex bf's sister used to find fault with everything I said and call me out on it each time. I'd often regret stating my opinions while she was around since her annoying tendency made me feel embarassed for what I had said.
Eventually I got angry at the situation and how it had seemed to have a control over me, so I told her off one day. She backed down right away. I didn't regret it either. If she liked me less or liked me more before or after my breaking point was irrelevant, what was relevant was that I didn't like her much.
It's harder though around people you do like and whose perceptions you do care about.
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I think its because i fear outcomes of situations. I fear and regret things that if i am unsure if what i did/didn't do was the "right choice".
The ironic thing is that even with all the focus, i have probably made ALL the wrong decisions so far. By avoiding people, and saying no to opportunities in the past, i have sabotaged myself.
The ironic thing is that even with all the focus, i have probably made ALL the wrong decisions so far. By avoiding people, and saying no to opportunities in the past, i have sabotaged myself.
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ye I get feeling of regret after something happens, but usually don't realise it wasnt a big deal until few day later when I think bout it.
Above post: ye that is ironic
Above post: ye that is ironic
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Definitely some of the time.
And I know what you mean even with the posting. Here, where all our "weird" quirks are accepted, I feel awkward like no one sees or cares about what I'm posting. So I usually get really uncomfortable and regret saying whatever I said...and try to determine whether or not to delete the post. I know it's absolutely ridiculous, but that's the way it is.
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And I know what you mean even with the posting. Here, where all our "weird" quirks are accepted, I feel awkward like no one sees or cares about what I'm posting. So I usually get really uncomfortable and regret saying whatever I said...and try to determine whether or not to delete the post. I know it's absolutely ridiculous, but that's the way it is.
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:lol Example A.
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If it helps, I see and care about what you posted.Definitely some of the time.
And I know what you mean even with the posting. Here, where all our "weird" quirks are accepted, I feel awkward like no one sees or cares about what I'm posting. So I usually get really uncomfortable and regret saying whatever I said...and try to determine whether or not to delete the post. I know it's absolutely ridiculous, but that's the way it is.
But yeah, I feel the same way when I post, and now I'm probable going to regret this and my previous post too, lol.
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Not if I quote them! :clapIf it helps, I see and care about what you posted.
But yeah, I feel the same way when I post, and now I'm probable going to regret this and my previous post too, lol.
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