I'm quiet until...

LostInReverie said:

someone starts talking about dogs. Then I'll jump into the conversation, volunteer information and opinions, and basically not shut up.

Or if someone asks any simple question I know the answer to, I'll jump to respond.

Anyone else like this?

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Yes. I only respond to things i know about. If i dont, i simply have nothing to say.

I can be like that when it comes to music & instruments, it does depend though

I never thought about it before - but yes, if someone brings up something I'm really interested in, I'm all over it. Dogs are one subject that will bring me out of my shell too And if someone asks for directions or something similar, I'm pretty low-stress in answering and happy to help.

yea, its almost impossible for me to communicate unless its about something I am interested in.

There's nothing wrong with this - I'm the same way in some respects. One idea might be to learn more stuff or to associate with people who have interest in the same things, as conversation will flow more naturally and anxiety will be much easier to overcome. Capitalize on this and use it to help yourself, rather than viewing it as a problem.

I find it difficult when others are chatting with each other. And i feel left out :|

Its usually small talk that frustrates me. I can only seem to talk about things with some sort of purpose, or coherence.

Instead of meaningless gibberish.

danstelter said:

There's nothing wrong with this - I'm the same way in some respects. One idea might be to learn more stuff or to associate with people who have interest in the same things, as conversation will flow more naturally and anxiety will be much easier to overcome. Capitalize on this and use it to help yourself, rather than viewing it as a problem.

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I never said I thought it was a problem. Why would you think that it was? I honestly don't think (at least my) social anxiety in general is a problem. It's who I am.

That made me smile, also after seeing your avatar. =)

Speaking of dogs, love pugs and huskies and malamutes.

I'm really knowledgable about music, movies, entertainment, and the arts. Other than that, I'm clueless. If someone starts talking about sports, throw me a life raft because I'm drowning.

I'm like this about certain topics. My SA almost disappears! My poor speaking skills, unfortunately, do not.

Yes, but with cats

I could talk about dogs for hours, I recently got my first one, a samoyed.

Depends who with really, if I'm sat on a table on my own with some people who I've never spoke to before who are talking about something and I feel I have something useful to say, by the time I've built up the nerve to say it they've moved on the next subject a lot of the time so I keep schtum.

I'm quiet around someone until my brain randomly deems them someone I can be comfortable with. There is no specific criteria, it just happens eventually (only with some people) and I become very personable and outgoing towards them. I just wish there wasn't that mental wall to climb.

This happened with my buddy's fiance (now his wife). She said something about me being quiet, and I said "well once I get to know you I probably won't be." I quickly realized she had already considered us to be decent friends and I felt like a dick for saying that.

Julzei said:

I could talk about dogs for hours, I recently got my first one, a samoyed.

Depends who with really, if I'm sat on a table on my own with some people who I've never spoke to before who are talking about something and I feel I have something useful to say, by the time I've built up the nerve to say it they've moved on the next subject a lot of the time so I keep schtum.

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This does happen to me sometimes, although usually my desire to be a know-it-all and hopefully make a good impression outweighs my fears.

Sammys are beautiful! I hope you don't live somewhere warm

This happens to me too. Whenever someone mentions music or movies that I really like then I can go on for ages. I just get really excited when I find people with similar interests and tastes.

Yup i'm like this totally. Mention a horse and i could talk for ages.