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Does anyone else sometimes have trouble identifying what exactly are the problems that you face? I'm trying to improve at this, but I've sort of reached a standstill for the past month.

Whenever I have thoughts about seeing a psychologist, I am immediately reminded that I'm not sure what my problem(s) are these days. I do have a very small desire to look into seeing a psychologist, but I become mildly frustrated with my inability to identify the details of what my problems are. I basically feel like I couldn't answer the question, "What is troubling you?" It's frustrating because it's such a basic question, and yet I seem to only have anecdotes available to me rather than a cohesive, categorical reply.

All that I'm fairly confident about is that I'd like to meet another friend or two. That's kind of a big goal rather than an incremental step though.

Could a psychologist help someone who can't currently identify their specific problems identify those problems? When I do identify something specific in my life that I want to change, I feel like I have the advantage since I can make a "battle plan" of sorts for addressing the known issue. I've conquored general fears of driving in unfamiliar areas, going into a variety of public situations, acting despite anxieties in work situations, asking questions when I am not clear on something, etc. I get excited when I identify a specific fear, because I have a methodology that works for me in overcoming such fears.

Now it seems almost as though my troubles have evolved, such that they wear a cloak of invisibility. I know something is amiss, but I can't see the "enemy" any longer. It's analogous to the switch from traditional warfare to guerilla warfare. I don't face any particularly huge attacks or problems at any given time, but I'll be suddenly hit with tiny attacks that quickly fade before I can identify what the problem is. They are just like tiny hits of lingering negativity that aren't incredibly intense at any given moment, but annoying nevertheless. This is getting tricky, and over the past month, I'm not really progressing in identifying just what the hell is going on with this.

As I said, it's far more annoying than depressing. I'm not facing any sort of severe problems. I am just wondering if anyone has any ideas for improving my chances at identifying sources (thoughts/fears) of unpleasant feelings.

I found a psychologist who works only a few miles from where I live who uses this as her description (sounds promising):

My ideal clients are individuals who are not currently happy with their life situation, even though they may not say so. They know they can be happier and more content, if they only knew how. The ability to desire change is what makes clients ideal. I believe everyone has this ability. I enjoy working with clents of all ages, "helping them to help themselves" from a holistic perspective, and specialize in mood and anxiety disorders, as well ADHD diagnosis and treatment and some specific medical assessments.

My specialty areas evolved from extensive experience in private practice, educational settings, and community mental health.
She lists her strengths to revolve around anxiety/fears, depression, and relationship issues. Her approach is CBT, eclectic, and holistic.

Price isn't listed, but she accepts my insurance plan.
 

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i would just say, talk to your doctor....you have an anxiety problem, thats your problem....i bet if you were anxiety free you would worry about ****....thats just what i would say....
 

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Adam, I think you know the answer to this one yourself.
I do? :con

I think I might be a perfectionist and that this isn't worth the effort and monetary cost. Perhaps I could better handle some of these unknown problems, but the extent of improvement probably won't justify the cost. That's what I'm thinking at this moment.
 

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Whenever I have thoughts about seeing a psychologist, I am immediately reminded that I'm not sure what my problem(s) are these days.
That's what a psychologist is for. She'll ask you questions and figure out what it is affecting you.
 

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ardrum said:
Whenever I have thoughts about seeing a psychologist, I am immediately reminded that I'm not sure what my problem(s) are these days.
That's what a psychologist is for. She'll ask you questions and figure out what it is affecting you.
So they are generally pretty effective at figuring this out? I'd hope so, and it seems like most would be good at this. I feel like I'd be interpreted as being "resistant" to questions when in reality I'm just sincerely having trouble trying to identify what is specifically bothering me besides some occasional, mild loneliness and numbness. Plus, I would need to conquor some major hurdles in "opening up" to some stranger... it feels nearly involuntary to give simplistic answers to questions... like I'd give off the wrong impression.

I did email a CB therapist who isn't ridiculously expensive (for my budget). We'll see what the response is...
 

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Well if they're good at their job, then yeah they would figure it out. Just from you not being able to open up would be a sign from the start that you have anxiety issues. Also, if a specific question comes up and you don't really know, then just be honest and say you don't really know the answer.
 

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shyvr6 said:
ardrum said:
Whenever I have thoughts about seeing a psychologist, I am immediately reminded that I'm not sure what my problem(s) are these days.
That's what a psychologist is for. She'll ask you questions and figure out what it is affecting you.
DITTO!! The Dr knows what to ask you to help you pinpoint things ...also there are resourses where you answer questions on-line, you can print this out and then take it to the DR and ask them to read it. My therapist thanked me for doing that. Come on, just go see the Doc!! :idea :yes ??
 

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Lyndia said:
shyvr6 said:
ardrum said:
Whenever I have thoughts about seeing a psychologist, I am immediately reminded that I'm not sure what my problem(s) are these days.
That's what a psychologist is for. She'll ask you questions and figure out what it is affecting you.
DITTO!! The Dr knows what to ask you to help you pinpoint things ...also there are resourses where you answer questions on-line, you can print this out and then take it to the DR and ask them to read it. My therapist thanked me for doing that. Come on, just go see the Doc!! :idea :yes ??
I want to see her response to my email before I make any decisions.
 

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A useful cartoon for you. Print out and use a pen to fill the thought bubble with why the stick figure looks confusedly unhappy. Freeform it and see what plops out. A Burns technique for free-form anxiety / depression. Not a relief provider - just used to uncover whats bugging you, though once you know it might be relieving I guess.

[attachment=0:s2uxftul]feelings.JPG[/attachment:s2uxftul]
 

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Right now he's saying, "I wonder what I'll have for dinner" as well as "I'm really bored."
 

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The temptation to joke WAS rather overwhelming wasn't it ... lol. Maybe give it a try later or when you're feeling peed off and just vent the vagueness into the bubble. Always worked for me.
 

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Yeah, I'm back to feeling blah/bored more than anything now. Mood is generally fine.

I swear my brain acts like a natural mood stabilizer. If I feel any sort of emotions, they tend to numb down within a short period of time. Works for ups as well as downs. Like a natural insurance policy.
 

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"The turbulent twenties"

The "better, bigger, more" decade.

Perhaps? :con
 

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ardrum said:
Unidentified said:
Adam, I think you know the answer to this one yourself.
I do? :con

I think I might be a perfectionist and that this isn't worth the effort and monetary cost. Perhaps I could better handle some of these unknown problems, but the extent of improvement probably won't justify the cost. That's what I'm thinking at this moment.
Ehm, sorry. I attributed you some of my own attributes, as it were...

Anyway, seeing as I, myself, am prone to often seek confirmation even when I'm 90% sure I'm right. I figured the only reason you could really be asking after having gone through all this trouble finding this psychologist, was that you already knew you wanted to go see her. That's why I said that you probably already know the answer, and managed to sound like a schmuck at the same time. :)

Anyway, my honest opinion is that it is generally a good idea to try this one out. If you have the courage to take that step, but then again that is just because I assume you're somewhat like me for being on these forums. :p
 

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yeah_yeah_yeah said:
"The turbulent twenties"

The "better, bigger, more" decade.

Perhaps? :con
Hmm... I'm not really sure what that means in the context of my life. :stu
 

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A common sensation in the twenties of feeling there should be more - more achievement, more happiness, more things etc etc ... leads to a kind of floating anxiety that you can't quite put your finger on.
 

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If you can't identify the source of anxiety, that one isn't worth keeping. Let it slide through. iT's probably not worth the worry. ;)
 

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:( Poor Ardricles
 

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yeah_yeah_yeah said:
A common sensation in the twenties of feeling there should be more - more achievement, more happiness, more things etc etc ... leads to a kind of floating anxiety that you can't quite put your finger on.
Well, I seem to prefer simple things really. I'm seemingly very different from my peers in that I don't watch TV (no cable hookup), don't like romantic relationships or sex, don't desire excessive achievement (my friends think I'm nuts for doing what I do when I could be doing x, y, and z which is supposedly so much better).

I'm perfectly fine with only a few friends. The problem is that I'm seemingly having friends move away or drift away faster than I can make them. Now that's probably a common feature in your 20s. But other than that, I don't know if this is an age-related thing. It's just difficult to relate to people in a more than "distant acquaintance" manner. I unfortunately find that most people I encounter kind of bore me or seem incompatible.
 
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