If you're in college, you probably don't have to worry about it spreading to every girl in the school, even if she does tell her friends...if you were in HS you would probably would have been screwed. Espcially if you went to my school. If something happened before classes started, 80% of the school would know before 3rd period. By 8th period you'd be a lost cause. The only people who wouldn't know by then were the dorky/loner kids that don't really know anyone. (Me)College. I commute, will not ever dorm lol. Transferred, from a dorming college will never dorm again, very stressful especially, if I would have had drama with a person, I would have to see them everyday or deal with roommates. Plus the college was madly expensive. The one I am in I like better, is close to my house, and cost 1/4 price and was named one of the best colleges in the state.
Sorry for the long lol but yeah, I am in college
I read that book a few times, not a bad book, didn't help me but was good to look at."she went from being awesome and liking me, to hating me, and wanting nothing to do with me".
That is just insane and makes me so angry.
I would like to recommend the book: "Instant Influence: How to Get Anyone to Do Anything--Fast" by Michael Pantalon. It's a scientifically proven, easily learned method for interpersonal problems large and small that can be implemented in as little as 7 minutes.
Yup, some very good points. I know I need to improve my confidence and self-esteem and like myself first before someone else does, but definitely easier said than done.Maybe you should focus on yourself and liking yourself instead of expecting other people to do it for you. I wouldn't want to have anything to do with someone who wasn't interested in me.
It's best to be friendly and kind to people but to not necessarily expect anything in return. And if the person stops being friendly with you and wants to avoid you it's best to let them be and assume it was never meant to be in the first place. Good luck!
I'm happy you are realizing this issue may be more about you than the girl you are talking about. It's not so hard to learn to like yourself more. Many people who like themselves are simply less self critical than many people with SA (no matter how unsuccessful they are). It's also important to not take the blame for everything bad that happens to you socially (just because you're the one with SA). A lot of times people will treat us with disrespect just because they think they can get away with it. This means the person is insecure and trying to put other people down in order to bring themselves up. This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the other person's insecurity.Exactly as Mae West and Xande said, you have to like yourself, which I do like some aspects about myself, other parts I am completely embarrassed about compared to the rest of society especially compared to my peers and other my age. Its much easier said than done but its something I have to work on, but I need to make those accomplishments first but since the incident with this now to the conclusion *****, which might change is she is talks to me again, its still hurts since the connection I made is gone and I am gradually getting over it, but ever-time I see her such as today in the hallway, my stomach dropped and I felt at screaming you heartless *****. But of course I will not say that lol