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Well I'm 17 & african american...
& sometimes I really feel like I'm the only
black girl with social anxiety (I'm not racist,I love all races but I really feel really lonley)

It's like my parents don't understand.I've tried telling them and they
let me see a psychiatrist (3 times) & I guess it helped a little..but it doesn't take away the loneliness.

I guess coping with it is harder for me,because it's very odd for a black girl to be so shy & quiet!!! (lol) & the people I'm surrounded by on a daily basis just dont understand..
 

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Yeah sometimes when i see black people, they are always mucking around, giggling and talking loud. I dunno why. But i think it's sometimes because they are nervous. Some people can be loud to hid their nervousness
 

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I recall seeing another 'dark' girl on here somewhere, if memory serves me correctly, and I thought it was you when i first read the thread, only to realise that you were another one. So keep your eyes peeled!

A good friend of mine is african-canadian and i have seen many other black peoples around here. You're definately not alone.
 

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No way. U sudnt think ur the only black girl with social anxiety!! Who cares anyways? Sure we're all the same, regardless of what colour our skin is. I thought i was the only person with social anxiety until i joined this site, now i realise there are so many people in my situation too
 

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I recently read an article in some science journal about ethnical and racial influences on social anxiety.
According to the study, social anxiety occures in all racial and ethnic groups in more or less the same degree.
However, though black people with social anxiety reporteded the same level of discomfort in social situations as Caucasians, they were less avoidant and better at hiding their SA.
The highest level of avoidance was found in Asians...

They didn't know why.

Sorry to hear you feel alone though :(
 

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hey lovelove
Im 20, black british chick and i am shy.
I aggree with giggles, but i do admit i do feel like the only odd one from time to time.
Its great ur parents are helping u although they don't understand.
I told 2 of my friends about the problem with sa and help i am getting. One completely laughed it off she didnt seem to get it, the other listened and made an effort to understand.
Majority of people will be like the former friend- they will not understand- and thats ok- its thier choice, not ur fault.
Don't let the fact that ur black and ur shy get u down- shyness doesn't discriminate race, culture, age etc. But its not anything to be ashamed of.
Most introverts come across as wise, sensible people. Yeah, its hard to socialise but its much harder if u cannot accept urself.
Good luck
 

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Well I'm 17 & african american...
& sometimes I really feel like I'm the only
black girl with social anxiety (I'm not racist,I love all races but I really feel really lonley)

It's like my parents don't understand.I've tried telling them and they
let me see a psychiatrist (3 times) & I guess it helped a little..but it doesn't take away the loneliness.

I guess coping with it is harder for me,because it's very odd for a black girl to be so shy & quiet!!! (lol) & the people I'm surrounded by on a daily basis just dont understand..
I am 24 year old african american female. I also suffer from SAD. Its very difficult because african americans are known to be very outgoing and out spoken. My grandmother constantly tells me how I need to change and stop being so quite. She tells me that's the reason why our family stays away from me. It hurts because there is nothing I can do about it for now. She doesn't know that I suffer from SAD. She just vents about how boring of a person I am. Sometimes it makes me feel depressed and I beat myself up for it. I wish this would all just go away and I can get my life back.
 

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Welcome to the forum, lovelove! I hope you feel a little less isolated and alone, here.

Could your psychiatrist explain SA to your parents? Some parents just don't want to believe that their child could have a disorder like this. I know it took my mom a long time to believe that SA was an actual disorder, and not a character flaw.
 

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interesting...and welcome virgo chick!
Thanks inna sense:D

My mom constantly drilled me on how 'anti-social' i was being when i was younger until i snapped... Its tough when the criticism comes from family. I always felt like rebelling by changing my appearance (piercings, tattoos, shave head)-that never happened.
Now, just being me seems to confuse people and i kinda like it;).

btw, i dont believe any person can be boring. fact.
 

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Your not alone..I'm an African American women as well
I am just beginning to feel the same way as you do ,misunderstood beacause of being a black girl with SA. I think its very difficult for African Americans to believe that these disorders DO exist mainly because of how many Blacks view mental illnesses in the first place. We are less likely to seek help for mental illnesses than any other race. Making It almost uncomprehensible to believe that being shy and reserved is apart of someone's natural behavior. I feel as though other races are more forgiving of someone who is quirky and alittle bit of a loner. While In the black community there is definitely some added pressures to not only make conversation in (sometimes) unfamiliar environments but to be loud and outspoken as well. I currently attend a HBCU and I feel like I get instant reactions from me being alone on campus. Not to mention I got a family reunion tommorrow.
But I think there are alot of African Americans with SA its just that we are forced to come out of it very quickly or faced with being made fun of and criticized for not. But Just know that enjoying your quiet time doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. You are who you are. Make some changes but don't lose yourself in the process.
 

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I agree. Because many African Americans are perceived as being pretty loud and outgoing, it can be weird for both people inside of the race and outside of the race to see someone different from the black stereotype. Everyone in my family is pretty sociable and every other black person I've come across have seemed so as well. So, if I hear someone whisper that I'm strange because I'm not smiling and laughing at every unfunny thing that someone says, I just shrug it off and chalk it up to lack of knowledge about me.

But, I do also agree with others who've said that being loud and appearing confident can cover up insecurities. I have also seen many, not only AA girls, but just girls in general who are super social and confident, but still feel the need to belittle others - a sign of lack of confidence.
 

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I am 24 year old african american female. I also suffer from SAD. Its very difficult because african americans are known to be very outgoing and out spoken. My grandmother constantly tells me how I need to change and stop being so quite. She tells me that's the reason why our family stays away from me. It hurts because there is nothing I can do about it for now. She doesn't know that I suffer from SAD. She just vents about how boring of a person I am. Sometimes it makes me feel depressed and I beat myself up for it. I wish this would all just go away and I can get my life back.
I think it's horrible that your own grandmother can't be more understanding of you! No one should be "punished" or criticzed or shunned because they are different. It burns me up to hear this. You might need help in changing to be able to live a more outgoing life, but the one YOU want, not your grandmother's version.

My grandmother was also very critical of me when I was your age (everything about me). Maybe you can chalk it up to she 's getting old and you're still young and she could be jealous(?) of something about you...

And you don't sound boring to me, btw.
 

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Well I'm 17 & african american...
& sometimes I really feel like I'm the only
black girl with social anxiety (I'm not racist,I love all races but I really feel really lonley
I know whsat you mean-I'm not black but I know what you mean, and I think there are more black girls than you think, it's just our avatars hide our races

1 that I can think of is MissChocolateMilkshake (I think thats her name) and maybe Nicoshy

Also, Daffodil(or something like that)

FYI-I don't know these people, I'm just in the forums a lot
 

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As my name says I'm a Canadian Brotha, the one Jaiyson refers to actually, & I sometimes feel that my race along with SA can be a duel edged sword at times as I'm not the stereotypical brotha. Anyway don't feel alone here on the board & PM me if you wish to chat(anyone can)
 
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