[rjridley]

Some of you know that I got a job, here is the thread where I talk about it:

http://socialanxietysupport.com/viewtopic.php?t=30947

Well, in the two weeks we've been hanging out together, I became good enough friends with some of them that I was able to socialize with some of them after hours tonight, and I have had some express interest in hanging out at a later date, including one girl that I like.

I don't know if she took it as me asking her out, I didn't ask her if she wanted to go on a date, but I did express that I wanted to spend one-on-one time with her. So we'll see what happens. This program lasts 10 months, so hopefully the people who seem to like me now will still like me in 10 months.

It was fun to get out of the apt. on a Friday night. It'll make it a little easier to stay home Saturday night. Hopefully from now on I will be able to go out at least one of the 2 nights each week.

So for right now the knot in my stomach is gone.

 

[millenniumman75]

Way to go, RJRidley - three boogies, man! :boogie :boogie :boogie

 

[SebFontain]

Hey at least you talked to her. Thats a big step. Maybe something will develop from it. :banana

 

[Futures]

awesome. :banana :banana

 

[rjridley]

thanks everyone.

I'm already starting to have negative thoughts though, Seb. Like what if she changes her mind about wanting to hang out with me, then I'm right back where I started. The hardest time is the time in between when I see her (or any girl I am attracted to), this is usually the time I talk myself out of pursuing anything. I'm also curious about her internal conversation with herself because I am sure that somewhere in the back of her mind she must be thinking "he asked me out!" I have been told in the past by other women how I affected them. I won't see her again until Friday, and I will send her an email on Wednesday. Hopefully I will be able to post a triumph that says we set a day and time to meet.

It's too soon to say, but I feel like the experience I will be having for the next 10 months will help me greatly reduce or even conquer SA. And then once I am no longer afraid to talk to people, then I can focus on fine-tuning how I relate to them, so that I'm not an a-hole.