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does nothing consist of sitting on the computer? I used to do nothing nothing nothing...now I only do nothing most of the time.

I started going for walks outside every day. It really helps! I cannot express to you just how much a simple stupid walk around the park can do.
 

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There are many things you can do:

-watch movies
-go out with friends
-go out with guys
-go out jogging
-go shopping
-read novels
-study (school)
-go to the library
-go to a coffee shop
-cooking
-meditation (this one is good - let me know if you want more advice with this)
-play sports

Pick one or two of those!!
 

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There are many things you can do:

-watch movies
-go out with friends
-go out with guys
-go out jogging
-go shopping
-read novels
-study (school)
-go to the library
-go to a coffee shop
-cooking
-meditation (this one is good - let me know if you want more advice with this)
-play sports

Pick one or two of those!!
Yeah, this guy knows how it's done!
 

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I would prefer to do "nothing" all day long (nothing to me consists of anything that involved being at home and not leaving the house). I try to get outside once a day, even if its just to walk out and check the mail. Since I have kids, I make sure to take them to the park, get some sun (it helps sometimes) and take them swimming, but I make sure I take them swimming a little later in the day so there isnt as many people there; otherwise, i feel overwhelmed.
 

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I do nothing for much of the day and used to feel lazy for it, but now that feeling has largely diminished. I feel that if I don't care about anything, then let me do nothing and see for how long I'm able to do that. I have to go wherever my heart leads. If it doesn't go anywhere, then neither will I. Not sure how wise that is, but if it works, I'll tell you.
 

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yeah sometimes I go a few days without doing nothing. and then when night time sets in I think what a waste of an awesome day that was.
But then like yesterday I went fishing for a few hours. I bumped into the lifeguard on the way back and we chatted for like 20 minutes. When I got home and the night settled in ,I did not have that guilty 'I'm such a loser' feeling at all. Just getting out even if it is just for a walk can clear your thoughts and almost do a reset of your brain.Also if you can get some sun while walking that will boost your mood whether you like it or not :p

Maybe just try and avoid shopping malls and all those super duper happy couples and such ;)
 

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I feel as though I don't do anything. It makes me feel terrible at times, but when an opportunity pops up for me to go out and meet up with people, I would actually rather stay home more than anything. Sometimes I feel terrible because going out feels like a chore. Isn't that just terrible? Some people would love to be in that situation, but I would rather spend my time alone and getting nothing done... which in turn makes me feel bad about myself. It's a vicious cycle. I think I might just be lazy.:sigh
 

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There are many things you can do:

-watch movies
-go out with friends
-go out with guys
-go out jogging
-go shopping
-read novels
-study (school)
-go to the library
-go to a coffee shop
-cooking
-meditation (this one is good - let me know if you want more advice with this)
-play sports

Pick one or two of those!!
While I agree with you, and am (slowly) changing myself and trying to do more and more things, gradually building myself up, however, some of these things can be extremely difficult to do with SA.

When my SA was at its worst I was scared to leave the house, to see anyone! That basically means I couldn't do anything on your list and was trapped indoors. My limit was going for a cycle on a route where people very rarely are about.

your suggestion is good, and their are lots of things to do, but not everyone feels comfortable doing even these seemingly simple things and stay in the comfort of their home.
 

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I understand, but there are a few things one can do without exposing themselves too much (although of course, one definitely should work on gradually exposing themselves to things that scare them)...

You could always meditate (not only is it something to do, but it actually creates physical changes in the prefrontal cortex area of the brain - it basically weakens the areas involved in sadness, depression, stress, anxiety, and it strengthens the areas involved in decision making, being happier, more optimistic, and less fearful).

Another thing you can do is exercise at home, and gradually work up to taking short jogs outside (you can start out really early or a bit later in the evening when not many people are out and about).

You could also cook and watch movies at home!
 

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Soon, I will be doing something. Without school or a job that makes money you can't really afford much. I think it's why I stay home since I am embarassed that I don't work and secondly I have no money to be able to afford to do things. Thirdly, I have no vehicle or bus nearby so therefore I stay home. I hate it!
 
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