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It seems like people just don't want to know me, I'm starting to think there must be something seriously wrong with me aside from my SA but I can't point my finger on it. I went to college for three years and I hadn't even made any close friends there, in fact when we graduated we didn't even say a goodbye, neither did my lecturers whom I had known longer than they had. It's probably been at least 5 years since I had an actual friend who I could hang around with socially, I have workmates that I can talk to sometimes but that's just it. It upsets me that no one wants to know me and it must be my fault, I have a feeling due to my SA that I must give the impression that I don't want people around me when in fact I do really badly, I crave to have social interaction.

My SA stops me from being who I am because I'm scared that if I show my real personality and my humour, people will avoid me but that's what people are doing now. I must come across as boring because I'm so shy and I don't engage a lot with people. I feel like I'm in such a muddle.
 

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This sounds exactly like me! I know what you must be feeling, its frustrating when you just can't seem to make a good impression no matter what you try, while other people get recognized and appreciated without even trying or caring or wanting it....

I seriously believe that its not because we come across as aloof/uncaring but people have told me that I look so uptight and nervous that I look like i might explode if they talked to me....so I think the trick is to relax and act natural...

again though, easier said than done.....I am at a loss for what to do
 

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Same problem.....teetering on the edge of giving up.
 
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