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hey guys, this is really a problem, im so weird, i always smile, even when i talk, i am smiling, i dont intent to. making people doesn't taking me seriously. :afr
i can say i can socialize but my weirdness is a big hindrance, it drives away people. if they are askin why i am always smiling, i am so hurt, coz me too, dont know why. how can i remove this weird behavior?
 

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^ it makes me look stupid and unbelievable.
in conversations, even there's nothing to be happy about, i smile uncontrollably
 

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Like he said, if people have a problem with it they have issues, so I think you should just roll with it. Smiling is good for you, and it is contagious (maybe not when you're looking, but I bet they smile after they talk to you and you can't see them ;)).
 

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Hey, I think there is no problem with smiling whatever you are doing, talking, just standing etc you are just a happy person and when you are happy looking you look more approachable. Keep it up :)
 

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There are many reasons why I smile but the reason why I will smile in seemingly inappropriate situations is because of the following: GUILT. Someone else observed the same thing about me. She told me, "Any time you feel guilty or ashamed of something you start to laugh". Does it bother me that I do that? Eh, minimally...not too much. I think there are advantages to it too.
 

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Such things can be a problem. Excessive smiling can be reduced a bit by relaxation techniques.
anyone knows how?

i just want to have many friends, im 1st year college. :|
i feel such a loser, i meet a alot of people, i want to befriends with them but i think they dont want because im weird and i think they find me irritating :um
 

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I used to do that at work - always laughing and smiling, cracking jokes etc. My face must have looked ridiculous!

I do think, however, that whilst this might have made me look approachable etc etc, it gave out confused signals to people against my other antisocial behaviour
 

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Such things can be a problem. Excessive smiling can be reduced a bit by relaxation techniques.
I have trouble smiling at all, so I would agree that it isn't a problem unless as oddoneout says that you may want to try relaxation techniques to relax your facial muscles and facial expression.
 

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hey guys, this is really a problem, im so weird, i always smile, even when i talk, i am smiling, i dont intent to. making people doesn't taking me seriously. :afr
i can say i can socialize but my weirdness is a big hindrance, it drives away people. if they are askin why i am always smiling, i am so hurt, coz me too, dont know why. how can i remove this weird behavior?
I have the same problem - even when I go to doctors, I still smile and sometimes can't help it. I think I smile when I'm anxious.
For me, I try to become very conscious about it and force myself to hold a straight face but sometimes when I'm really anxious/nervous, it's really difficult. I think by smiling, I feel as though it will hide away my lack of confidence or something like that.
However, like some members have said above smiling too much isn't necessarily a bad thing (you should consider yourself lucky that you even can :)) - smiling is a great way to socialise and connect to people as it creates this somewhat positive/relaxed aura.
 

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It sounds like you do it because it's a side effect of nerviousness or anxiety. I usually do it when I'm trying to lie about something.
 

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smiling can also be a tension thing - I find I will smile when conversations start to get argumentative or I even think about that sort of thing, for example. But with me anyways, its not the same as a happy smile - Its almost more like baring my teeth or something, so maybe the difference between the types of smiles is visible? Sure feels like it should be! I don't know how to stop though.... Good Luck!
 

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Don't feel alone, I have the same problem and I worry about it alot, also but there is nothing you can do about it because that's you, you don't need to change because if you do people will look right through you as being fake, the thing is, can you keep it up, eventually you will go back to smiling so be yourself, this is how I deal with it but I still have other problems as well. I don't want to be a hypocrite because I am asking for advice from this forum myself I have issues also but talking to you guys is really helping by letting know that I'm not alone. :D
 

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I used to smile too much too. In grade school they teased me about it and called me smiley. And in social situations, I couldn't stop smiling and my cheeks sometimes got very sore... Maybe you could try furrowing your eyebrows instead? I think the two expressions are mutually exclusive. I'm sure you could force yourself to do both at the same time, but you'd end up looking pretty silly.
 
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