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Why do people feel the need to talk about me either openly or behind my back? People have always done this my entire life, and usually I never do anything. I sit by myself, I stay quiet, and I never bother anyone else or harm anyone else but others do not return the favor. I have had others plot against me to bring me down, to tear me down, to spread lies and rumors about me, to spread gossip about me, and so on. I never understood what I did to them to cause them to want to do that to me, or why they would even want to because I myself do not have the desire to do that to other people. I don't think that I have ever done that to other people, now that I think of it.
I have a hard time not caring what others think of me. Maybe I am a bit insecure and do care to an extent what others think of me. I honestly never thought others paid a lot of attention to me, since I am quiet and plain. I have had people flat out tell me to my face "Don't you care what people think of you? Don't you care that people roll their eyes at you? Don't you care that people make fun of you? Don't you care that people talk about you?" Honestly, I didn't care at the time but I become really self-conscious because I started wondering why others were noticing me or talking about me, because I was not doing anything other than keeping quiet and keeping to myself most of the time.
I just want to know how to cope with it better. I mean, everyone gets talked about, right?
From what I can tell though, many people perceive quiet people and loners as being either easy targets for bullying because they seem passive and lack strong social support, or they perceive loners as being stuck up. Believe it or not, people have told me that when they first saw me, they thought I looked mean and stuck up. I couldn't believe my ears. Me? Stuck up and mean? In my eyes, I was one of the nicest and most down to Earth people I know. They told me that keeping to myself and not talking to others or looking at others made me come across as stuck-up and mean.
I do also like the idea that others could be jealous or envious of me for something, or they feel threatened or intimidated by me because of it, but perhaps that is only wishful thinking.
I have a hard time not caring what others think of me. Maybe I am a bit insecure and do care to an extent what others think of me. I honestly never thought others paid a lot of attention to me, since I am quiet and plain. I have had people flat out tell me to my face "Don't you care what people think of you? Don't you care that people roll their eyes at you? Don't you care that people make fun of you? Don't you care that people talk about you?" Honestly, I didn't care at the time but I become really self-conscious because I started wondering why others were noticing me or talking about me, because I was not doing anything other than keeping quiet and keeping to myself most of the time.
I just want to know how to cope with it better. I mean, everyone gets talked about, right?
From what I can tell though, many people perceive quiet people and loners as being either easy targets for bullying because they seem passive and lack strong social support, or they perceive loners as being stuck up. Believe it or not, people have told me that when they first saw me, they thought I looked mean and stuck up. I couldn't believe my ears. Me? Stuck up and mean? In my eyes, I was one of the nicest and most down to Earth people I know. They told me that keeping to myself and not talking to others or looking at others made me come across as stuck-up and mean.
I do also like the idea that others could be jealous or envious of me for something, or they feel threatened or intimidated by me because of it, but perhaps that is only wishful thinking.
