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I only see my boyfriend once every few weeks, and he lives very close to me, is this normal? If your a guy if you really cared about your girlfriend wouldn't you see her more, I don't understand because my boyfriend is always the first to say I love you, I even gave him an easy out in breaking up, but he didn't want to, what could be the reason?


Update: When I saw him the other day I told him that we should see each other more, and he told me to call to tell him to come over whenever I want, and he wants to see me more too, so I guess I really just needed to tell him how I felt. thanks for the responses =)
 

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He's either not that into you or he has girls on the side, sorry. If a guy really loves you he'll make more time then once every other week for you. How often is he calling? If he calls daily I suppose theres some chance he's just super busy with other stuff, but if thats the case he should've told you.
 

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i don't know why he would see you so little and say he loves you. maybe he just doesn't know you would like to see him more? do you initiate seeing him or does he intiate it?

i wouldn't say he doesn't really love you based on this small amount of info but something seems wrong...
 

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i don't know why he would see you so little and say he loves you. maybe he just doesn't know you would like to see him more? do you initiate seeing him or does he intiate it?

i wouldn't say he doesn't really love you based on this small amount of info but something seems wrong...
Do you think I should ask him if he thinks it's strange we only see each other once every two or three weeks? I don't know if I have the guts to ask him that, plus do you think that would make me seem needy? do you think I should ignore him next time he calls?
 

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i see my bf a few times a week so i can't imagine seeing someone you're dating every few weeks. i would ask him about it, it's not being needy, i think anyone would find that strange. i think he might have another gf or something. and you shouldn't wait for him to dump you if he's not meeting your needs, you should break up with him if he doesn't change his behavior after you talk to him about it.
 

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Do you think I should ask him if he thinks it's strange we only see each other once every two or three weeks?
Yes.

I don't know if I have the guts to ask him that, plus do you think that would make me seem needy?
No. There's something strange going on if he only wants to see you every two or three weeks, and yet you live so close. Maybe he's wondering why his girlfriend only sees him once every two or three weeks. I think the two of you maybe need to communicate a little more.

do you think I should ignore him next time he calls?
That's not going to help your communication issues.

Don't wait for him to call you. Call him. Talk to him.
 
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