[dearestjane]

Late 30s here and living at home. My dream has always been to have a place of my own. You'd think I'd put in the work to make it happen...especially considering just how toxic it is living at home for me. It's just so expensive to get a place, impossible almost without having a billion roommates. How would I be as a roommate?

It's been difficult for me to maintain employment due to my mental health symptoms. Without employment, without a steady paycheck or two...how?

Last night, in bed, I felt so sad and defeated because of this.

 

[bjornironside]

In this economy I don't feel as bad about it.

 

[TigerB]

One of the few things I no longer have to deal with. Moved out 4 years ago at age 27. Really learned that I just can't live with other people in a house anymore, so that means I wouldn't want to be in a serious relationship or marriage either. Which isn't a good thing to know about yourself.

 

[Cool Ice Dude55]

I'm 29 and living at home. I've been saying "i'll move out next year" for the past three years. Well, right now, I'm unemployed so too mentally ill to get a job so i don't see how that will change. But mother would like to sell the house and move to a one-bed house by herself so i know i'm going to have to find some life skills fast in the next two years to make it on my own. I really do not want house mates.

 

[Mlt18]

I'm still living at home. I'm 22. And, I'd honestly be terrified if I lived on my own. No job, no spouse. What if someone were to rob my apartment or house? (That rhymed! ). What if I had to open the door for a delivery person??? I'd do it, but it doesn't make the anxiety any less bearable than it already is. And I'd have to go to the grocery store all by myself, I'd be all alone... Though, I suppose that there is the option to have roommates... but, if I am being honest, you really can't trust anyone nowadays... not even your closest friend... or husband or wife.

Yeah the main reason I live at home is I don’t really feel safe alone 24/7 but don’t want a random roommate that’s basically a stranger, since I have no friends only relatives.

 

[zonebox]

I have been staying at my parents house for the past two weeks, and probably will for another two to four. I love them, but damn I think I would go crazy if I had to stay here. I miss my house, the freedom one experiences, and the privacy.

I couldn't do it permanently, I have been gone from living like this for too long and am used to being away from them. Perhaps if I had never had a life away from them I would not mind it as much, and I don't harbor negative thoughts for people that do live with their family - if anything I have a level of respect for their discipline.

The past two weeks though have been difficult. I'm looking forward to my father healing up and to getting back to my home.

 

[The Fozz]

Still at home 34yr old here. Had an offer from a friend almost a decade ago to move into a sharehouse type arrangement with them and some strangers. Had the paperwork right there in front of me for ages but my avoidance and anxiety had already become quite prominent by that point and I just never went ahead with it. I went over to visit a few times before I fell out of touch with that friend due my issues worsening and I can't say I wasn't jealous while I was there. In the time since then I've moved with my parents out of the only house I had any memories of, which I remember being pretty unsettling, into a temporary place for a year, then moved again to new long term place, never once with any serious plan to make my own way. Dreamed (both day & night varieties) about it plenty though. I have a brother-in-law and a niece now, which definitely adds to the weight/expectation I feel, though my little sister was always more driven and certain of where she was headed than I ever was.

My issues have seemingly stopped getting worse and stabilised recently, but it hasn't brought any relief. Don't if it's directly related, that feels counterintuitive, or coincidental but I feel the loneliest I have felt since I stopped talking to that friend. This has made my desire to live an independent adult life without the constant feeling of my parents "looking over my shoulder" especially with someone my age, whether friend and/or partner, stronger than ever but as always rather than actively pursue it I'm just waiting for things to somehow fall into place because I'm too scared to act and fail. I guess posting on here again and communicating with people outside my immediate family counts for something

 

[Blue Dino]

Yes I do, fortunately. And I'm glad everyone here are as well. Because not living at home (house, apartment or even a trailer or RV) instead living on the streets would be brutal.

 

[Resergence]

Being 29 living at home no shame If I could get in house market that would be great!

 

[Socialmisfits]

38 still at home, will probably still be here at 50 lol
If I ever manage to take the plunge (pretty unlikely rn) I want it to be only me, not a roommate or a girlfriend, just me.

 

[Zeinner]

I do! and I'm very, VERY much into adulthood at this point.

I've actually lived on my own (but not out of my own money, never earned any) for quite a few years but a family member needed assistance after some health issues so the least I could so was move in to help.

 

[pillbugger]

I'm in my late 20s and never had my own room. The 3 family members that I live with don't know that I want to finally move away and live by myself.

I'm currently taking a long, hard stare at an assistance program to get there. Not sure if I want to talk to a therapist first, as I'm not sure what I am shackling myself into. All I know is that the world is decaying and that price tags getting out of hand. I am most likely going to need some aid to get out of this hole that I have dug for myself.

 

[heyJude]

I’m still at home. I moved out on my own a few years ago for a couple of years and it was nice having the privacy, but very lonely at the same time. I moved back in with my parents when my lease was up and started a new job after graduation. I wanted to eventually move out again after a year, but the pandemic happened and my dad wanted me to save up for a house instead of throwing my money away on rent. Now that I lost my job and my mom passed, I’ve been taking care of things at the house. I don’t mind living at home still, but do want to get my own place/life eventually…just really tough to do with the way things are nowadays -.-

 

[WillYouStopDave]

Doesn't everyone live at home?

 

[Blue Dino]

These 4 do too.

 

[Socialmisfits]

I live with my parents next to a 90 year old single woman. When she leaves the world, new people will be our neighbors. I reckon they will be a young couple with or almost with kids, vibrant, positive, motivated and definitely about 15 years younger than I am.
The humiliation I will feel when they see me daily in the garden with old parents will reach unparallelled heights. This is what plays in my mind right now. I rather have a bunch of low life drug addicts living next to me so at least I wouldn’t feel like such a loser all the time.

 

[cybernaut]

29 and yes. I've been at home for over two years so far. COVID pandemic has only further contributed to that.

 

[Lonelygirl1986]

I live at home at 35, we get on well and my dad gives me rides everywhere. I am "cotton woolled" you could say. They don't seem to care. They do want me to get a job and a bf though. Living alone entirely takes balls well I think anyway. If it had worked out with my ex. I may have been able to live with him.

 

[Dan the man]

late 30s and still live at home

depression and anxiety stop it. plus coming home from work tired all day I have not much energy for much else

I figure if I live on my own as well I would be more prone to eating junk for food all the time.

Plus I think there is a part of me that is afraid to be alone. At least with parents I know what the deal is. I have mega trust issues with people

 

[acstar]

Did you write my story for me? 😂 Similar situation here, I had a mental health setback 4 years ago. I was able to finish college but struggled with maintaining emotional balance. Don’t worry about what it looks like, think of it as a time of deciding what you really want to do. Save some money if you can. That’s great that your family doesn’t want you to pay rent, if you do get your own place or need to support yourself one day it’s good to have savings. You could also spend the extra money doing things you enjoy. Family is really the most important to me. I have an older brother and sister. Sister has her own place but is over all the time with her family. I Pay rent from SSI I recently got but it’s very little money I get. My mother doesn’t want me to work but I’m planning on getting my masters and doing so anyway. You have the time space and ability to plan your future carefully.