You're my freakin' hero.I'm keeping my therapist to bounce ideas off of and check in with while I practice what is taught in The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. A lot of therapists aren't really skilled to treat SA, and unfortunately I don't think mine is.
She has validated many of my feelings and thoughts about my life and condition however, and given me some insight about myself. Before talking to her I hadn't realized that my siblings and I have basically raised ourselves, for example. I've been walking around most of my life being terrified of inadequacy and not feeling able to meet my responsibilities, while never seeing that at the same time I've been pulling myself up by the bootstraps and raising myself because my father is always at work and my mother is very mentally ill.
Psychologists are like midwives to me. You've got everything you need to help you figure out this problem and engage in your recovery (and really only you can do the recovery work), but they can help comfort, guide, and provide insight during your process.
I thought the goal of therapy is the opposite of that. Aren't therapists supposed to help you understand yourself so you can better deal with your issues independently? I don't receive that validation or "unconditional acceptance" from my therapist at all, and I'm sure she won't appreciate if I become emotionally attached to her. I think that trust and acceptance is a means to an end, which is to help you solve your own issues.Lots of different methods or theraputic styles can work, but what they tend to have in common, when successful, is that the therapist and the therapee develop some level of rapport, or relationship. Feeling trust in and validation from another human being, regarding the stuff a person may be most troubled by, has value in and of itself.